What to wear for a wedding?

Cadaverous Pallor · 08-14-2010, 09:11 AM

We're attending a wedding in Boston in mid-September. (Not summer weather, not freezing either.) GD is a groomsman so he's wearing a tux. I'm not in the wedding party. It's an afternoon wedding. This friend of ours isn't usually about formality, so I know it won't be super uptight, but nice.

I bought a dress but I'm having second thoughts. Here's a bad photo of me in it while in the fitting room. Spoilered for size.

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While the pattern seems dressy enough to me, the fabric and shape are still on the casual side. I'm beginning to worry it won't look nice enough next to a tux.

What do you guys think? It's easy enough to dress for an evening wedding but afternoon ones throw me for a loop. Any other dress advice?

Gn2Dlnd · 08-14-2010, 09:38 AM

No piccy. Or is this one of those "can't be seen by fools" deals?

Will the afternoon wedding lead into an evening reception? If so, dress as you would for an evening wedding. Of course, I'm not all that fashion savvy, so, grain of salt and all.

BarTopDancer · 08-14-2010, 09:55 AM

I can't see the picture either. But I understand East Coast weddings are much more formal than West Coast so I'd err on the side of formal.

Kevy Baby · 08-14-2010, 10:04 AM

Its the Emperor's New Dress

Cadaverous Pallor · 08-14-2010, 11:43 AM

Sorry about that, here's the pic.

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katiesue · 08-14-2010, 12:10 PM

you could easily dress it up with acessories and maybe a jacket.

Strangler Lewis · 08-14-2010, 02:12 PM

Hard to tell from the picture.

But since it inspired a heartfelt "huh!?" reaction, I'm going to question the premise of the question: that any of you--but especially you, newish mom--should fly cross country to attend the wedding of someone who, jumping to conclusions, I will guess is some serial monogamist in his thirties.

Now if this guy is like, say, Marty, never had a date in high school or college, seemed doomed to be alone, but ultimately fell in love with some wallflower at the dance hall, then, yes, it's a joyous occasion and spare no expense. But otherwise--send a gift and a telegram.

innerSpaceman · 08-14-2010, 03:13 PM

Personally (and I may be dating myself), any New England wedding after Labor Day, even in the afternoon, calls for something a bit formal - and that's not even counting that your escort is wearing a tuxedo.

You're young, so you don't have to go stodgy. But Boston is not L.A.

BarTopDancer · 08-14-2010, 04:28 PM

It's a cute dress (why can't I see it in FF... only in IE...) for cocktails but I'm thinking not really east coast wedding appropriate especially if GD will be in a tux.

Morrigoon · 08-14-2010, 05:22 PM

Do you have a black structured jacket you could wear with it? The dress is nice, would have fit in perfectly at the wedding I just came from. And the jacket might make the difference between a California wedding and an East Coast one. Especially paired with heels.

08-14-2010, 09:11 AM	#1
Cadaverous Pallor ohhhh baby Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Parental Bliss Posts: 12,364	What to wear for a wedding? We're attending a wedding in Boston in mid-September. (Not summer weather, not freezing either.) GD is a groomsman so he's wearing a tux. I'm not in the wedding party. It's an afternoon wedding. This friend of ours isn't usually about formality, so I know it won't be super uptight, but nice. I bought a dress but I'm having second thoughts. Here's a bad photo of me in it while in the fitting room. Spoilered for size. Spoiler: While the pattern seems dressy enough to me, the fabric and shape are still on the casual side. I'm beginning to worry it won't look nice enough next to a tux. What do you guys think? It's easy enough to dress for an evening wedding but afternoon ones throw me for a loop. Any other dress advice? __________________ The second star to the right shines in the night for you
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Gn2Dlnd Parmmadore Jim Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Casita del Queso Posts: 3,810	No piccy. Or is this one of those "can't be seen by fools" deals? Will the afternoon wedding lead into an evening reception? If so, dress as you would for an evening wedding. Of course, I'm not all that fashion savvy, so, grain of salt and all. __________________ Does anyone still wear a hat?
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BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	I can't see the picture either. But I understand East Coast weddings are much more formal than West Coast so I'd err on the side of formal. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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Kevy Baby Chowder Head Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Yes Posts: 18,500	Its the Emperor's New Dress __________________ The thing about quotes on the internet is that you cannot verify their validity. - Abraham Lincoln
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katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	you could easily dress it up with acessories and maybe a jacket. __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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Strangler Lewis Doing The Job Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: In a state Posts: 3,956	Hard to tell from the picture. But since it inspired a heartfelt "huh!?" reaction, I'm going to question the premise of the question: that any of you--but especially you, newish mom--should fly cross country to attend the wedding of someone who, jumping to conclusions, I will guess is some serial monogamist in his thirties. Now if this guy is like, say, Marty, never had a date in high school or college, seemed doomed to be alone, but ultimately fell in love with some wallflower at the dance hall, then, yes, it's a joyous occasion and spare no expense. But otherwise--send a gift and a telegram. __________________ Live now-pay later. Diner's Club!
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innerSpaceman Kink of Swank Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Inner Space Posts: 13,075	Personally (and I may be dating myself), any New England wedding after Labor Day, even in the afternoon, calls for something a bit formal - and that's not even counting that your escort is wearing a tuxedo. You're young, so you don't have to go stodgy. But Boston is not L.A.
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08-14-2010, 04:28 PM	#9
BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	It's a cute dress (why can't I see it in FF... only in IE...) for cocktails but I'm thinking not really east coast wedding appropriate especially if GD will be in a tux. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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Morrigoon I throw stones at houses Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Location: Location Posts: 9,534	Do you have a black structured jacket you could wear with it? The dress is nice, would have fit in perfectly at the wedding I just came from. And the jacket might make the difference between a California wedding and an East Coast one. Especially paired with heels. __________________ http://bash.org/?top "It is useless for sheep to pass a resolution in favor of vegetarianism while wolves remain of a different opinion." -- William Randolph Inge
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