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Motorboat Cruiser · 10-11-2005, 06:28 PM

I had a very nice and lengthy chat with our roommates ex-wife tonight. My apprehension in making the call was dissolved in the first few seconds. She couldn't have been nicer. We tried to answer each others questions the best we could and I think, if nothing else, we both have a little bigger piece of the puzzle than we had earlier.

My biggest concern has been the daughter. She took the news very hard but seems to be holding up ok. Her mom welcomed the idea of us sending a letter to her and it will go out in the mail tomorrow. Mom also said she would bring her over to visit us in the next couple of weeks. It brings a little comfort to know that we can stay in touch with her.

The call was very hard but I'm so happy that it turned out the way it did. I had a good cry afterwards and feel better now. All part of the healing process.

I can't thank you enough for all of the kind words of support.

Ghoulish Delight · 10-11-2005, 07:47 PM

So glad to hear that! Tragedy can bring the worst or the best out in people. Glad it was the latter in this case ('course, from your end I'm pretty sure the best and the worst are one and the same

).

Kevy Baby · 10-12-2005, 09:27 PM

My heart goes out to the two of you.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

alphabassettgrrl · 10-13-2005, 04:27 PM

I'm glad your phone call went so well! I'm sure she was glad to hear she's not alone in her grief.

Gemini Cricket · 10-13-2005, 05:02 PM

I just read this thread. Hang in there, MBC! Know that Ralphie and I are keeping you in our thoughts.

MouseWife · 10-15-2005, 12:23 PM

I, too, just read your post.

So sorry to hear all of this. Glad to hear the phone call went well.

I can tell you, it is very difficult to know what people will do. I commend you for trying to help him in the first place. For giving him the opportunity to straighten up. So sad that he lost his job but many people do lose their jobs and that isn't the route they take.

We have a family member who when we haven't heard from we really listen closely to the news reports of bodies that have been found. I can't even imagine the feeling you had while reading the paper. Or the past few days.

Many cyber hugs to you. {{hugs}}

Motorboat Cruiser · 10-15-2005, 12:42 PM

Thanks for the kind words.

Each day gets a little easier. It was a tough week. Today we are going to look at new apartments and are kind of excited by it. Not excited about the move itself but more about the chance for a new start somewhere else. I think we need that right now. This place has too many bad memories associated with it and it's time to move on.

blueerica · 10-15-2005, 04:18 PM

Same here, I just read this thread now... I'm glad I can't even fathom what you must have been going through this last week... Hugs to both you and Matthew, and hugs for his daughter. What a shock..

/hugs

Tito's Kitten · 10-16-2005, 08:54 AM

I just read this thread as well. I am so sorry to hear about all that MBC. I am glad that the phone call went well and that she was willing to let you send a letter to that poor little girl. I am sure she will treausre the letter and hopefully remember all the wonderful times she spent with her dad at your place.

SusieP. · 10-17-2005, 07:26 PM

Wow. I remember reading this in the paper, but what a small world. I am so sorry to hear this story.

I think writing the letter to the daughter is a great idea. Her mom seems to see the benefit in it as well, so that is good. Heck, just the fact that the two of you were kind enough to give the guy a chance gives ME hope for humanity. You guys are awesome.

10-11-2005, 06:28 PM	#31
Motorboat Cruiser Cruiser of Motorboats Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: So Cal Posts: 3,665	I had a very nice and lengthy chat with our roommates ex-wife tonight. My apprehension in making the call was dissolved in the first few seconds. She couldn't have been nicer. We tried to answer each others questions the best we could and I think, if nothing else, we both have a little bigger piece of the puzzle than we had earlier. My biggest concern has been the daughter. She took the news very hard but seems to be holding up ok. Her mom welcomed the idea of us sending a letter to her and it will go out in the mail tomorrow. Mom also said she would bring her over to visit us in the next couple of weeks. It brings a little comfort to know that we can stay in touch with her. The call was very hard but I'm so happy that it turned out the way it did. I had a good cry afterwards and feel better now. All part of the healing process. I can't thank you enough for all of the kind words of support.
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Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	So glad to hear that! Tragedy can bring the worst or the best out in people. Glad it was the latter in this case ('course, from your end I'm pretty sure the best and the worst are one and the same ). __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ
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Kevy Baby Chowder Head Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Yes Posts: 18,500	My heart goes out to the two of you. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. __________________ The thing about quotes on the internet is that you cannot verify their validity. - Abraham Lincoln
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alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	I'm glad your phone call went so well! I'm sure she was glad to hear she's not alone in her grief. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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Gemini Cricket ... Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 13,244	I just read this thread. Hang in there, MBC! Know that Ralphie and I are keeping you in our thoughts.
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10-15-2005, 12:23 PM	#36
MouseWife Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Da' Beach Posts: 2,957	I, too, just read your post. So sorry to hear all of this. Glad to hear the phone call went well. I can tell you, it is very difficult to know what people will do. I commend you for trying to help him in the first place. For giving him the opportunity to straighten up. So sad that he lost his job but many people do lose their jobs and that isn't the route they take. We have a family member who when we haven't heard from we really listen closely to the news reports of bodies that have been found. I can't even imagine the feeling you had while reading the paper. Or the past few days. Many cyber hugs to you. {{hugs}} __________________ Summa' time....when the livins' easy.........
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10-15-2005, 12:42 PM	#37
Motorboat Cruiser Cruiser of Motorboats Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: So Cal Posts: 3,665	Thanks for the kind words. Each day gets a little easier. It was a tough week. Today we are going to look at new apartments and are kind of excited by it. Not excited about the move itself but more about the chance for a new start somewhere else. I think we need that right now. This place has too many bad memories associated with it and it's time to move on.
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10-15-2005, 04:18 PM	#38
blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	Same here, I just read this thread now... I'm glad I can't even fathom what you must have been going through this last week... Hugs to both you and Matthew, and hugs for his daughter. What a shock.. /hugs __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me
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10-16-2005, 08:54 AM	#39
Tito's Kitten Still in love with Ben Gibbard Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: where soul meets body Posts: 180	I just read this thread as well. I am so sorry to hear about all that MBC. I am glad that the phone call went well and that she was willing to let you send a letter to that poor little girl. I am sure she will treausre the letter and hopefully remember all the wonderful times she spent with her dad at your place. __________________ Who the hell needs a damn signature anyway?
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SusieP. I lyke to reed! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Room 29 Posts: 112	Wow. I remember reading this in the paper, but what a small world. I am so sorry to hear this story. I think writing the letter to the daughter is a great idea. Her mom seems to see the benefit in it as well, so that is good. Heck, just the fact that the two of you were kind enough to give the guy a chance gives ME hope for humanity. You guys are awesome. __________________ The world is quiet here.
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