THIS IS IT. Gay Marriage Goes B4 Cali Supreme Court Today!

[Alex]

Originally Posted by alphabassettgrrl

If you're going to keep totally financially separate, it's hardly worth being married, right?

I don't know, I try not to define for others what it means to be married.

As far as I am concerned I was married to Lani for years before we bothered to get the state involved and what I consider essential to us being married has absolutely nothing to do with the entwinement of our health insurance (which, despite being married, still hasn't happened) or the dispensation of our estates when we die (which, despite default inheritance laws we have done our best to supersede with alternate contracts in the form of living trusts, wills, powers of attorney, etc.).

Since the institution of state marriage exists I support completely it being expanded to include gay couples. But I also support it being extended to include any combination of consenting adults.