It's not fair

Gemini Cricket · 07-14-2006, 05:51 AM

It's not easy when a younger sibling is going through a lot of hard times. It's hard not to absorb the sad stuff. But you have to try as hard as possible not to let it drain you. It is hugely sad and painful, but now is the time to be strong for your bro. Be strong for him and for yourself. Because the sad stuff will only eat away at you and your own mental state and leave you incapacitated to help him to the fullest of your potential.

My little sister does really stupid things some times and I worry for her a lot. But I realized that overworrying only makes the worry come out by accident when I'm speaking with her. That usually makes her feel worse. I just suck it up and stay supportive. My lil sister has lupus and it makes me sad all the time, but not when I'm talking to her. (I'm an actor after all...)

Nothing you can do can fix his ailment physically. But you bet your bottom dollar that there's lots you can do to help his mental and emotional state. Take some time to work through your grief and guilt and then give him a happy call or visit. Don't talk about the physical status of his hip for longer than a few moments and then spend the rest of the time bonding with him and being happy. Because maybe he wants to take his mind off of it.

I hope I'm not sounding insensitive. But I'm trying to put myself in your place and come up with a plan of action. And that's what I would do.

Hugs to you, dear Prudence. Hang in there. Chin up, M'Dear.

07-14-2006, 05:51 AM	#11
Gemini Cricket ... Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 13,244	It's not easy when a younger sibling is going through a lot of hard times. It's hard not to absorb the sad stuff. But you have to try as hard as possible not to let it drain you. It is hugely sad and painful, but now is the time to be strong for your bro. Be strong for him and for yourself. Because the sad stuff will only eat away at you and your own mental state and leave you incapacitated to help him to the fullest of your potential. My little sister does really stupid things some times and I worry for her a lot. But I realized that overworrying only makes the worry come out by accident when I'm speaking with her. That usually makes her feel worse. I just suck it up and stay supportive. My lil sister has lupus and it makes me sad all the time, but not when I'm talking to her. (I'm an actor after all...) Nothing you can do can fix his ailment physically. But you bet your bottom dollar that there's lots you can do to help his mental and emotional state. Take some time to work through your grief and guilt and then give him a happy call or visit. Don't talk about the physical status of his hip for longer than a few moments and then spend the rest of the time bonding with him and being happy. Because maybe he wants to take his mind off of it. I hope I'm not sounding insensitive. But I'm trying to put myself in your place and come up with a plan of action. And that's what I would do. Hugs to you, dear Prudence. Hang in there. Chin up, M'Dear.
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