Can we talk about porn?

[Cadaverous Pallor]

I never found a parental porn stash. I did find "The Joy of Sex" which I am now sure was left on a shelf for me to find (and steal and hide in my bedroom and show at slumber parties). My parents were very open about sex and I was never told it was a dirty thing. I watched a lot of Skinemax...because my dad watched it openly. It didn't embarrass me too much. I thought it was normal. Only when I started sneaking out of bed to watch it when everyone else was asleep did I start getting weirded out by my dad's openness. We had that and scrambled porn - that was it.

My friends had magazines but they freaked me out, with their glossy boldness and personal portablility. You didn't have to risk being caught in the living room at 2am to have those. I never owned one.

I think it was a good balance of being taught sex was ok and normal and yet not having too much early access. I ended up a rather chaste girl, especially for someone who was teaching her first grade classmates to say "sex" and not spell it.

All that gets unleashed these days, instead of in teen exploits, and I'd say that's a good thing.

I would say unequivocally that my attitudes towards sex were greatly affected when I first found porn online. I suppose if I had access to the magazines and movies others had at younger ages then it wouldn't have been as big a deal.

I once read a theory that one major reasons relationships don't seem to last as long is that people are pickier. Ages ago the only people you saw were those in your tribe/town and you didn't expect everyone to look like (insert movie/porn star here). There are lots of fish in the sea, and the sea is now global.

I think the same is true for sex. If you had never seen or heard of plushie porn, how would you have ever considered it? I'm sure some people have odd fetishes on their own but I am sure this is exacerbated by the prevalence of odd fetish sites. I believe that there are lot of things I'm into that I would never have even considered if I had not had access to "information" on them.

That said, because of my aformentioned open family, I know I'm more apt to say "let's give that a try" instead of "eewww."