Snap!

[blueerica]

Ditto, ditto, ditto.

It might not be wrong to call CPS sooner rather than later - however, I would hope for a little counseling and breaking of the pattern as opposed to "getting a new parent." It's terribly traumatic as a child, no matter what that child has gone through, to 'lose' a parent. Often it takes years to find a new home if a suitable family member is unavailable. I'm sure your mom might understand how things operate within the CPS in Hawai'i better than any of us could.

You did the right thing.