Miscellaneous Halloween thread

[Disneyphile]

Originally Posted by madmonkeygirl

Just don't like the rubbing in of those who went and the pictures. Kinda like i have this and you don't kinda way back in school being taunted.

Well, thank goodness this isn't school and that we're all adults.

As for pictures and recaps, where is the line drawn then? Should people never post pictures when they hang out with friends anywhere, because not everyone was invited?

I've seen plenty of photos on here of concerts, theme parks, and other outings to which I was never invited. For example, no one called me and asked me to go to Haunt this Friday. So, should I complain if photos are posted and you all talk about your great time?

(And, honestly, I do hope to see the pictures and stories, because I haven't been to Haunt in years, and I'd really love to see what's new. And, I also take joy in seeing my friends having a great time, even if I'm not there.)

So... I ask this:

Should no one ever openly speak of an event or outing that not all of us are invited to?

Or, should we just not look at photos/posts that upset us for whatever personal reason we have?

Sorry, but I will continue to post photos and openly discuss my adventures. And, since this isn't school, and we're adults, I'm obviously not doing it to taunt anyone. It's just like sending a postcard from a vacation. Does it mean the vacationers are only doing to rub it in, or does it mean they're having such a great time and want to share it with those they wish were there?

Now, please pardon me whilst I go spend time with my husband. Maybe we'll even watch a porn tonight. And, just so we don't offend anyone, you're ALL welcome to join us. PM me for the address. However, it's BYOL (bring-your-own-lube). We'll post photos tomorrow.

[belleh5]

Originally Posted by Disneyphile

Well, thank goodness this isn't school and that we're all adults.

As for pictures and recaps, where is the line drawn then? Should people never post pictures when they hang out with friends anywhere, because not everyone was invited?

I've seen plenty of photos on here of concerts, theme parks, and other outings to which I was never invited. For example, no one called me and asked me to go to Haunt this Friday. So, should I complain if photos are posted and you all talk about your great time?

(And, honestly, I do hope to see the pictures and stories, because I haven't been to Haunt in years, and I'd really love to see what's new. And, I also take joy in seeing my friends having a great time, even if I'm not there.)

So... I ask this:

Should no one ever openly speak of an event or outing that not all of us are invited to?

Or, should we just not look at photos/posts that upset us for whatever personal reason we have?

Sorry, but I will continue to post photos and openly discuss my adventures. And, since this isn't school, and we're adults, I'm obviously not doing it to taunt anyone.

Now, please pardon me whilst I go spend time with my husband. Maybe we'll even watch a porn tonight. And, just so we don't offend anyone, you're ALL welcome to join us. PM me for the address. However, it's BYOL (bring-your-own-lube). We'll post photos tomorrow.

I wish I lived closer!! I love reading and seeing pictures of stuff I couldn't attend. Please don't stop. Not everyone will be invited, so move on and hopefully you will make the guest list next year.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Originally Posted by Disneyphile

Should no one ever openly speak of an event or outing that not all of us are invited to?

I referred to it earlier, but I always figured that because this group started out as a result of the fallout of someone talking about a small group party on a large group board, we all planned to... sort of... acknowledge and accept the fact that sometimes we would not be able to invite everyone, and sometimes we would not be invited, and despite possibly feeling sad (on both occasions) we'd handle it as politely as possible - on both sides of the equation.

[JWBear]

Originally Posted by LSPoorEeyorick

I referred to it earlier, but I always figured that because this group started out as a result of the fallout of someone talking about a small group party on a large group board, we all planned to... sort of... acknowledge and accept the fact that sometimes we would not be able to invite everyone, and sometimes we would not be invited, and despite possibly feeling sad (on both occasions) we'd handle it as politely as possible - on both sides of the equation.

I thought it started because of pancakes...

[belleh5]

Originally Posted by LSPoorEeyorick

I referred to it earlier, but I always figured that because this group started out as a result of the fallout of someone talking about a small group party on a large group board, we all planned to... sort of... acknowledge and accept the fact that sometimes we would not be able to invite everyone, and sometimes we would not be invited, and despite possibly feeling sad (on both occasions) we'd handle it as politely as possible - on both sides of the equation.

Isaac like's pancakes!

[Isaac]

Originally Posted by belleh5

Isaac like's pancakes!

I know you do too, missy !


As for Val's Halloween, I was invited but I've known Val for 6 years.
Why would you want a bunch of strangers at your party ?

[Morrigoon]

Originally Posted by madmonkeygirl

Pru sorry to hear you felt left out and your feelings hurt. I am wasn't invited either. But no way would i have been able to make it. Just don't like the rubbing in of those who went and the pictures. Kinda like i have this and you don't kinda way back in school being taunted. But don't let that stop you from future events where you are invited to. Most events i can't make due to work and i feel very left out that events happen regularly on Fri and Sat nights when i might be working.

To be fair, the photos that were posted in the thread were specifically of costumes, which as far as I can tell, are exactly the sort of thing that should go in this thread. I certainly didn't post them to rub anything in anyone's faces. I very specifically did not post photos just of the decorating or party "events" for that reason. But if we can't post photos of our Halloween costumes, then what's the point of having a Halloween thread?

There are events going on this weekend, not everyone is invited to all of them, and it'd be nigh impossible for anyone who is to make it to all of them. I'd love to see pics of the stuff I'm not invited/can't make it to. I hope folks won't be shy in sharing.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

It's not easy to be on the outside looking in, but the reality of the matter is that our houses have limited space, and if someone is not inviting me (and yes, as with most of us, it has happened a fair bit) it is probably a matter of not being as close to that person as others are. Inevitably, the guests that a host invites are the people who the host knows best. In my experience, it's not as much an issue of 'popularity' as it is about personal connections. Friendship doesn't happen like magic. There are a lot of things that go into it - time, energy, patience, flexibility... They say relationships take work, and friendship-relationships are no different.

So, JWBear, I haven't talked to you much outside of the board, but I do really enjoy your posts and I'd be happy to have you join me at any gatherings we host or outings we take. I've posted some of them here on the board, and you've never joined me, so I've assumed you didn't care to. But I will be sure to extend a direct invite next time!

[belleh5]

I got even!!

[LSPoorEeyorick]

To add on to that - I find that invite-only parties are the exception and not the rule with this group. Otherwise I wouldn't have gotten to know any of you, really. Because I've never considered myself the popular type, and I don't actually relish the position of "looking-down-upon" that is sometimes implied by a "popular" descriptor. But I do relish friendships. So I just kept showing up to open events until I got to know people better. And I'm still getting to know people better, and that makes me happy.