The Gay Thread

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

I don't see it that way. If I was picketing, stalking, and created a blog devoted to pointing out how fat one guy is, wouldn't you say something like, "Uh dude, you're fat too." That's not mocking me because I'm fat, that's pointing out the ridiculousness of my behavior.

Being fat is a visible public fact, as much as one is a brunette or tall. Being gay is a personal fact. Part of what is troubling about being called gay is that someone is treading on your personal ground.

Maybe he is gay. Maybe he's bisexual. Maybe he has had lovers, maybe he's a virgin. Maybe he was abused as a child. Maybe he's battling his own internal war. You don't know him, and he's probably a lot more complicated than one three-letter word. Calling him gay dismisses him as much as it dismisses anyone else. If you don't want this for yourself, don't propagate it. Call him a crazy asshole instead.