Soooooo......

[Alex]

It's a spectrum.



"There's a very attractive person working in the garden next door."

"There's a young very attractive person working in the garden next door."

"There's a young very attractive person working in the garden of the person next door."

"There's a young, very attractive person working in the garden of the person next door and is dating our neighbor."

"There's a young, very attractive person working in the garden of the person next door and is the most recent of a long string of people dating our neighbor."

"There's a young sweet thang working half nekkid in the dirt plot next door, boy do I appreciate the rate at which our neighbor plows through them as it's nice eye candy."

"I was just standing naked at the blinds pulling one off while watching the neighbor's newest barely legal conquest work up a sweat in the garden next door."

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Alex is hilarious and also correct. It crosses the line for me.

I'm often surprised at how often I hear this kind of thing among gays..."sugar daddies" and the like. I think it proves that it's not true physical weakness that distinguishes women as subs, but simply a concept of who's on top.

To me, it's still people being treated like inferiors. Perhaps someday we'll hear about the struggle for twink rights.

[Gn2Dlnd]

Originally Posted by Cadaverous Pallor

To me, it's still people being treated like inferiors. Perhaps someday we'll hear about the struggle for twink rights.

Maybe it's an age thing on my part? Maybe it's because you're not gay? I'm not sure. But your perception of this is confusing to me. Twinks are not, in any way, struggling for rights. Nor are they treated as inferiors. People choose roles in relationships, sub and dom are agreed upon, not assumed. In fact, more often than not, the partner in control of a relationship would be described as the "bottom." It's not a power trip thing, although some people get off on that, it's just a persona that helps someone define their place in a relationship. What JWBear is describing sounds to me like the sort of situation I would find myself in when I was younger. Someone wants to help me out financially, or offer me some sort of domestic security, fine. I can be a cute date. I find myself on the other side of the equation now. No surprise. Who doesn't like the satisfaction of helping someone out? And, if they happen to be cute? All the better. I ain't the Red Cross. Granted, I'm not in this situation very often, but, when I am, neither party is laboring under any delusions.

With the broad spectrum of relationships we have here, I'm surprised that anyone on this board would be in any way offended by a good old lusty compliment. If Dave had hired a busty blonde to help around the house (everybody ought to have a maid...), and she was another in a string of lookers, and I happened to like busty blondes, why on earth would it be offensive for me to say so?

I'm all for rescuing puppies that want to be rescued. Problem is, I tend to complicate the situation by rescuing the straight ones. Yes, apparently, that's a thing too. They get some sort of security, I get a cute guy to hang out with, they know they're never going to put out, I know they're never going to dump me. Win-win, right?

[Gemini Cricket]

I guess it's been awhile. Ha ha.