Societal norms, the Moral Majority and a rant that feels so good

[Kevy Baby]

Originally Posted by Crystal

The people we've had a falling out with have been friends for many years. The wife became aware of my bi-sexuality, something she heard through the grapevine, and now has a need to put me down and treat me as though I am immoral. She feels the need to "save" me and told me I will regret the choices I have made in my personal life. Personally, I feel it really is none of her business, but because we have been friends for so long, it is really difficult to get past this. She is judging mine and SacTowns entire relationship on this one thing that she disapproves of.

I suspect that most of what is upsetting about this is that these people who are your friends have suddenly changed their view of the two of you and yuo have seemingly lost a friend. This change in view was based on a rumour/detail/whatever that appears to be true. If her moral line of demarcation (because of religious/personal/whatever beliefs) indicates that bi-sexuality is unacceptable to her/them (not sure how much the husband was involved), then that is her choice. If she believes that this act (it may be more than the bi-sexuality - it may be more the lack of monogamy in the marriage; many people believe that "open marriages" do not work) means that she does not want to associate with you, then that is her prerogative. Yes, it hurts and yes, it sucks. But her choice is hers to make. The way she acted (preachy, etc.) may have been pretty crappy, but would you rather she say these things to your face or behind your back?

I am not saying this to go against the nature of what happened (you and Sac are wonderful people and you have great kids, so you must be good parents), but to just to look at the whole picture. I am sorry that this person has these narrow views and was compelled to thrust them in your face. I were in your shoes, I am not sure I would WANT such a closed minded-person as a friend!

I am very sorry for the two of you and the shiity situation!

Originally Posted by Crystal

SacTown, baby, I Love You!

Does Mickey Lumbo know about this?