Riding crop costumes go bye bye

[Prudence]

Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

Prudence, while it's impossible to get an accurate reading on one's true feelings via text, I get the impression the nature of this discussion is quite emotional for you and it may be coloring your judgement of the situation. If you'll forgive the unsolicited advice, you might want to take a few steps back, wait a while, and come back when you've had some time to ruminate on the topic. We're you're friends here and I'm positive nobody is attacking you.

And why the hell wouldn't I be emotional? A bunch of people I thought I might be friends with some day are outright advocating employment decisions based on weight -- not because of the objective requirements of the position, but because they'd rather look at skinny people.

Theme park employees should be hotties, because that's what you're paying to go see. Wait staff should be hotties, because that's why you eat out. Receptionists should be hotties because they're the face of the company. And so it goes. If you indulge in that thinking, then regardless of the field or position there is ALWAYS a reason to hire the hottie and not, well, me. If I had a dollar for everytime a prospective employer told me that I just "didn't project the right image...." -- because goodness knows one wants the backroom file clerk to project the right image. But hey, given the choice between the skinny applicant and the fat applicant, why not hire the skinny one? After all, they'll be better to look at day after day.

Obviously it's "the way things are." I experience it every day. However, that doesn't meant that I have to passively accept it, let alone personally perpetuate it.

But I still have to wonder -- if y'all feel that strongly about looking at hot bodies when you're out and about, why would you voluntarily associate with those you know don't make the grade? The message here has been pretty clear -- given the choice, people would rather look at skinny people. There is nothing so fabulous about my personality that would make up for my appearance. I'm not able to shower my friends with riches. Just a big lump of fat with a person somewhere deep down inside.