Riding crop costumes go bye bye

[Alex]

No, but if all they do is bitch about their weight and yet make the personal choices that exacerbate the issue I'm going to judge them for it and decide I don't need to be around them much.

Like I said above these are not character flaws that follow from being fat, but they are, for some, character flaws that are revealed by being fat. It is not the fat, per se, that I am judging. It is their relationship with being fat.