The Court of Friendship (or When Good Friends Go Bad)

[innerSpaceman]

Ugh, 'neither a borrower nor a lender be' comes to mind. As does '... for loan oft loses both itself and friend.'

I have also lent a rather large sum of money to a very, very close person ... and the payback terms, though not formal or specified, have been lackluster to say the least. I have been thinking about asking this very very close person to sign a promissory note for the money they owe me, but I'm also thinking that's way too tacky ... and I'm worried that asking them to sign a note is a dead giveaway that I've contemplated legal action (I can't help it; it's what I do for a living).

I just think it looks nasty to someone who is this very very close (and it's certainly going to look nasty to them when they inevitably read this post).

I guess I should also go by the dictum of 'never lend any money you can't afford to lose,' but I really can't afford to lose this money. Better the money than this person, though. I love this person dearly (and I only like money very, very much.)


Oh, sorry that I'm more in need of advice than giving of any.