Kinsey and Bisexuality

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Originally Posted by €uroMeinke

what do you think of Kinsey's notion that we are intrinsically bisexual?

I think I disagree. But it's very difficult to know how most folks feel about the issue because so few are willing to truly discuss their feelings honestly. Well, other than folks posting in this thread.

I gotta be honest and say I don't understand bisexuality at all. I accept it, but I don't "get" it.

Kinsey would definitely rank me a 6. I have never had a sexual fantasy involving a woman, never been sexually attracted to a woman, nor had physical relations with a woman. From a very early age, I knew I was gay. So when I try to imagine a guy being attracted to a woman (to any degree), I have no personal point of reference—the concept is totally foreign to me.

In addition, I don't define sexuality the way Kinsey did. To me, a person's orientation is defined by which gender they are able to form romantic/emotional bonds with, i.e., love. If you're a woman who only falls in love with men but occasionally "does it" with chicks, you're not bisexual—you're a straight woman who likes to play with ladies. But if you're a woman who does fall in love with both chicks and dudes, you are indeed bisexual. (Again, this is just my personal definition. I don't expect others to adopt it.)

Years ago I used to think that anyone who called themselves bisexual was either a straight person who wanted to sound chic or a gay person who couldn't quite drag themselves all the way out of the closet. I have since become enlightened. While I still think some of the aforementioned types exist, I have come to learn that there truly are folks who dig both the chicks and the dudes. And if that works for you, more power to you!