Forbes posts and then pulls controversial article about marriage

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

Unquantifiable is the trend that career women might be, well, better people and thus better mates and thus worth working out the stress factors.

* I'm not suggesting that working women are inherently better than housewives. But there might be some independence, vitality, vivaciousness, integrity or strength indicated by a person with a career motivation. And, of course, there may not be.

But give me a career woman every time.

Ouch. Disclaimer or not, I bristle at the notion that a woman would choose to raise kids because she's possesses less independence, vitality, integrity, strength, or motivation than a woman that chooses a career. Perhaps it could just be different priorities? I have my whole life to have a career. But I happen to feel that *my* kids will be better cared for, educated, nurtured, smarter, whatever because I'm choosing this time of their lives to be with them.

(Prudence, I hope you don't mind if I use you as an example.)

So how about Prudence's husband? Will he be have less integrity, strength, independence, vitality and motivation because he'll stay home with their kids? I'd wager not. Stay at home Dads generally get the, "you are so amazing for doing that comments." Yet it's just the same choice being made by a different gender.

Prudence and I actually share a lot of the same feelings regarding the issue. She obviously feels a great deal of pressure to conform to a more traditional role and experiences ridicule for her "different" choice. Whereas, I get the your-less-of-a-person looks from most people that find out I'm a stay at home mom.

You're going to find boring stay at home moms and boring career women. I don't think that a single life choice, albeit a major one, is an accurate assessment of one's personality.

As for the article, I'm not really sure it is easier for a one income family. Unless the one income is a large one, supporting an entire family on one income is probably just as much stress as being time crunched is.