*sigh* teenagers - Page 3

Snowflake · 09-27-2007, 07:20 AM

Hang in there Nephy, you're doing the best you can. At least you are making yourself plain in your displeasure.

I'm just so glad I'm not in your shoes, I would not be doing so hot, I'm sure!

DreadPirateRoberts · 09-27-2007, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Not Afraid

Oh. Yeah. I did that to the nieces, didn't I?

Please keep practicing. I may need your help in about 12 years.

Nephy, I don't have any wise sage advice, other than to do your best.

cirquelover · 09-27-2007, 08:57 AM

I'm not looking forward to your situation, but I think you are handling it in a good manner for you and your family. I don't envy you in the slightest! As long as you're setting boundaries and he is following them, it's the best you can do.
Most people wouldn't be honest enough to say they would do it different if it were their daughter. Except my husband, which is why we stopped after one boy. He would have locked a girl in the closet at puberty and not let her out until she was 40!!!

katiesue · 09-27-2007, 09:01 AM

My parents had the same rules as in Helen's house. No boys in your room, ever. Even when we were older no sleeping in the same room unless you're married - doesn't matter if you live together no wedding seperate rooms.

Nephy what if you think of it like this - what if it were Rose at her boyfriends house in the same situation? What would you want his parents to do?

Morrigoon · 09-27-2007, 09:36 AM

I think you showed Davis a great deal of respect by not barging in on him. I think you would be wise to point that out to him - you were discreet because you respect the fact that he is of legal age, however, he also needs to respect you enough to be discreet.

And warn him (gently and respectfully) that if they do it with you in the house again, you WILL interrupt them and it will be terribly embarrassing for both of them.

sleepyjeff · 09-27-2007, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Morrigoon

I think you showed Davis a great deal of respect by not barging in on him. I think you would be wise to point that out to him - you were discreet because you respect the fact that he is of legal age, however, he also needs to respect you enough to be discreet.

And warn him (gently and respectfully) that if they do it with you in the house again, you WILL interrupt them and it will be terribly embarrassing for both of them.

Yep. I like this advice.

BarTopDancer · 09-27-2007, 10:13 AM

Next time, open the door and go "can I join in?"

Probably would get rid of the gf too.

Nephythys · 09-27-2007, 10:19 AM

Bwa hahahahahaha!

Day-um BTD- good one

I like that advice too Goonie-

Katiesue- I honestly have NO idea what I would do or think in that situation. I can admit I would have reacted differently if it had been Rose yesterday- but then I consider that his GF is someone's daughter too- so what would I do?

I don't know.

BarTopDancer · 09-27-2007, 10:54 AM

They are probably doing this at your house because her parents make it to hard to do at hers. Just because they can, doesn't mean they should. And doesn't mean that any set of parents needs to make it easy for them. If they want to, they should do what the rest of us did. Sneak around in cars and places where it's not all that comfortable

Or wait till parents aren't home. Nothing breaks the mood faster than seeing the headlights of the parental car in the driveway.

katiesue · 09-27-2007, 11:11 AM

Right, what BTD said. Yes they will find a way but you don't have to make it easy for them.

And just FYI - dry creek beds are not the best idea - just sayin' (I think I still have bruises).

09-27-2007, 07:20 AM	#21
Snowflake lost in the fog Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: San Francisco Posts: 7,831	Hang in there Nephy, you're doing the best you can. At least you are making yourself plain in your displeasure. I'm just so glad I'm not in your shoes, I would not be doing so hot, I'm sure! __________________ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. - Oscar Wilde
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09-27-2007, 08:57 AM	#23
cirquelover Cruising around in my automobile... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Oregon Posts: 2,617	I'm not looking forward to your situation, but I think you are handling it in a good manner for you and your family. I don't envy you in the slightest! As long as you're setting boundaries and he is following them, it's the best you can do. Most people wouldn't be honest enough to say they would do it different if it were their daughter. Except my husband, which is why we stopped after one boy. He would have locked a girl in the closet at puberty and not let her out until she was 40!!!
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09-27-2007, 09:01 AM	#24
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	My parents had the same rules as in Helen's house. No boys in your room, ever. Even when we were older no sleeping in the same room unless you're married - doesn't matter if you live together no wedding seperate rooms. Nephy what if you think of it like this - what if it were Rose at her boyfriends house in the same situation? What would you want his parents to do? __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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Morrigoon I throw stones at houses Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Location: Location Posts: 9,534	I think you showed Davis a great deal of respect by not barging in on him. I think you would be wise to point that out to him - you were discreet because you respect the fact that he is of legal age, however, he also needs to respect you enough to be discreet. And warn him (gently and respectfully) that if they do it with you in the house again, you WILL interrupt them and it will be terribly embarrassing for both of them. __________________ http://bash.org/?top "It is useless for sheep to pass a resolution in favor of vegetarianism while wolves remain of a different opinion." -- William Randolph Inge
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BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	Next time, open the door and go "can I join in?" Probably would get rid of the gf too. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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09-27-2007, 10:19 AM	#28
Nephythys Yeah, that's about it- Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In a state of constant crap to get done Posts: 2,688	Bwa hahahahahaha! Day-um BTD- good one I like that advice too Goonie- Katiesue- I honestly have NO idea what I would do or think in that situation. I can admit I would have reacted differently if it had been Rose yesterday- but then I consider that his GF is someone's daughter too- so what would I do? I don't know.
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09-27-2007, 10:54 AM	#29
BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	They are probably doing this at your house because her parents make it to hard to do at hers. Just because they can, doesn't mean they should. And doesn't mean that any set of parents needs to make it easy for them. If they want to, they should do what the rest of us did. Sneak around in cars and places where it's not all that comfortable Or wait till parents aren't home. Nothing breaks the mood faster than seeing the headlights of the parental car in the driveway. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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09-27-2007, 11:11 AM	#30
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	Right, what BTD said. Yes they will find a way but you don't have to make it easy for them. And just FYI - dry creek beds are not the best idea - just sayin' (I think I still have bruises). __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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