Battle of the sexes.... I'm curious

[Strangler Lewis]

Are you sure you're not living in a dramedy?

I've been off the market for a long time, but I'm going to guess that men don't have a similar network. My sociological observation on the subject is that when I used to work in downtown SF and have lunch out a lot, every time--and I mean EVERY time--I sat next to two women eating together, their conversation was about some guy. When it was two guys, the conversation was much more varied. Generally work, sometimes sports, occasionally a girl.

[Ponine]

Ahh.. the infamous Womens Lounge aka someone sometime years ago.... had a baby, and needed someplace to pump milk.
So some other kind soul found a closet, put in carpet and a chair, and poof!!! Nursing mothers room.
Only... that was too... telling... so it had to be a LOUNGE.

And GD... that right there might be part of the issue. I'm in payroll. Almost totally women. twenty-four women and two men.
We are joined at the hip to HR.
HR has.... five men? And almost twice as many women.

and Strangler.... its not a dramedy.. I wish it were.
Its full on Spanish Telenovella

[Ghoulish Delight]

Originally Posted by Strangler Lewis

Are you sure you're not living in a dramedy?

When CP spent 2 months working at the yet-to-be-opened library, doing officy type work in an officy type environment rather than working in a functioning library in front of the public, she'd come home and tell stories that made me pretty sure she was actually commuting to Scranton, Ohio to work at Dunder Mifflin on NBC's The Office.

[Capt Jack]

Originally Posted by Ponine

I was always under the impression that there are groups of men who do similar.

other than the usual 'wow, shes hot' and variations on that, no, I dont believe the average male side of the scenario do that.

admittedly I wasnt exactly privy to such info over the last two decades, but even since I became 'suddenly single' Ive not seen or heard of a 'list' in the male circles. I just cant imagine the guys I know passing such info back and forth.

if anything, they keep the info to themselves for future reference

mi dos centavos

PS: besides, what would be so wrong with telling a guy "(female) was asking about you"?

[Ponine]

Case in point of my office being wacky...
someone just walked up to my desk to get a piece of chocolate....
"So Ponine, I've been meaning to ask you, are you in the market for another child, or have you just not found a willing donor?"

Okay look.....
a) I'm working. Well I was until I logged back into LoT
b) Donor? Umm.. donors arent usually hard to find.
c) None of your beeswax.

[MouseWife]

A male or female posed this question?

[Kevy Baby]

I really don't have a lot to add. I work in a company with only four others.

However, hearing the dating woes of the two single women here makes me glad to be happily married!

[katiesue]

I only have two people in my office most of the time. So that severly cuts down on the drama rama. When I've worked in larger offices my expierences have been similar to Ponine's.

[innerSpaceman]

I have never experienced the male office equivalent of that, in my 20 years of office work.

Guys are generally not that open with one another. The talk is sometimes about 'isn't she hot?', but much more often about sports, work, and sometimes TV, once-in-a-while politics. Never dating.

It's a girl thing because it's more of a girl interest, and because boys (straight boys anyway) are generally too shallow to care to discuss anything about their lives.


I find most straight men to be incredible bores... and I'm really glad I'm not one.

[BarTopDancer]

Our building is 2 stories. Downstairs are all of our consultants (customer service reps) and it is mainly women. We call that area adult high school.

Doing what I do I know everyone and hang out with everyone. A month or so after I started I decided partake in salad day with some the consultants. That was the one and only time I ever ate lunch with that group. I was bombarded with questions about if I was single, married, what kind of guys I liked, who in the office I thought was cute, etc...

Upstairs there are several cliquish groups of women but they aren't nearly as bad as the ones downstairs. Like anything, I think it depends on the women and the group. I have a lot of guy friends and the most I ever hear out of them is daymn she's hot. I always offer to go get numbers for them but they always shoot me down...