Anxiety Attacks. - Page 2

Strangler Lewis · 09-07-2006, 01:27 PM

I know you didn't ask for solutions, but as a man and an attorney, that's really all I know how to give. The solution is that unless you are going to forfeit a lot of money by doing so, postpone/cancel your vacation. Why, I have many pleasant memories of vacations/weekends that I've put off due to unexpected work explosions, the not-quite-so-unexpected death of my father, etc. You need time, and you need to save money to have a roof over your head (or so it seems from your tone). It's rare that one can actually remove a cause of anxiety. Here you can.

Eliza Hodgkins 1812 · 09-07-2006, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Strangler Lewis

I know you didn't ask for solutions, but as a man and an attorney, that's really all I know how to give. The solution is that unless you are going to forfeit a lot of money by doing so, postpone/cancel your vacation. Why, I have many pleasant memories of vacations/weekends that I've put off due to unexpected work explosions, the not-quite-so-unexpected death of my father, etc. You need time, and you need to save money to have a roof over your head (or so it seems from your tone). It's rare that one can actually remove a cause of anxiety. Here you can.

Can't, for mental reasons and fiscal ones. If I understand correctly, the flight (a birthday gift) isn't refundable. Also, I haven't had a vacation in two years, and part of this anxiety is the result of really needing to getaway. My parents can always help me in a pinch (I can bunk with them for a couple of weeks if I can't secure the place in the time planned). I'm sure some of this, in addition to the planning, is simply having to deal with the roommate situation while I'm figuring this all out. It's a sticky, sad situation, though it's not as terrible as I was expecting after breaking the news of my leaving to her.

Anyway, thanks. I do appreciate the advice. I'm sure that would be the easiest resolution, but it's not gonna happen.

Eliza Hodgkins 1812 · 09-07-2006, 02:40 PM

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So, um, I guess I'm saying that I deal with the anxiety by completely forgetting about it afterwards. I suppose that doesn't help when it's still in front of you, as I'm learning myself right now as I feel totally unprepared for this move.

Coping with moves is supposed to be right below coping with death on the stress scale. I've had some close-call (how will I get packed in time?!?!?!) moves. I'll just have to plan a head and be packed well in advance. Good thing I've already started that phase.

Okay, I seem to be calming down a bit. You guys have been great. Really.

tracilicious · 09-07-2006, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Eliza Hodgkins 1812

Coping with moves is supposed to be right below coping with death on the stress scale. I've had some close-call (how will I get packed in time?!?!?!) moves. I'll just have to plan a head and be packed well in advance. Good thing I've already started that phase.

True that. I feel like since I survived the move from hell (in which the house that we would be moving to wasn't available in time and the house we were in had already been given notice on) while nine months pregnant and planning a homebirth, there isn't anything short of death that could possibly be worse.

There were definitely anxiety attacks in that situation. I handled it mainly by freaking out a lot, crying, vomitting and pacing. Oh, then I made a plan. The plan helped probably the most.

Jughead P. Jones · 09-07-2006, 01:48 PM

There's been a lot of great responses so far, so I don't really have anything else to add.

But, one thing I usually do when I feel anxious, or angry, or just plain stressed out, is put on some of the most upbeat music that I can find (it could be anything from The Killers to...ahem...Jessica Simpson), and just jump around, work up a sweat and let the music drown out your anxiety. It works for me, because I usually move so much, I flop down on a nearby chair or bed and veg out in a calm state.

katiesue · 09-07-2006, 02:15 PM

I drive and listen to fun upbeat music. Treadmill helps as well. And lists, even thought I hate them it does somehow seem to make it all more manageable if you write it all down. Long bath with the latest edition of People.

innerSpaceman · 09-07-2006, 02:32 PM

Regulating my breathing is all I need to get over an oncoming panick attack. By just paying attention to it, you tend to breath more deeply, more slowly ... this slows the heart rate, calms the nerves.

For more persistent anxiety .... I simply suffer it. No cure known to me.

BTW, if you're upcoming vacation is going to be your general life anxiety-reliever, I don't see how you could give it up. Postponement might be a neet idea though. (and if it's really going "back east," um, yeah, giving it up might be all the stress relief you need.)

Eliza Hodgkins 1812 · 09-07-2006, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

BTW, if you're upcoming vacation is going to be your general life anxiety-reliever, I don't see how you could give it up. Postponement might be a neet idea though. (and if it's really going "back east," um, yeah, giving it up might be all the stress relief you need.)

I'm going to be staying in rural New Jersey, by a lake, peeping at leaves and reading books. One Halloween party gathering weekend with a bunch of friends, and then just my good friend R and I being lazy and doing not a whole heck of a lot. Not a stress to the wallet or the mind. And totally needed.

In the meantime, deep, deep breaths.

Snowflake · 09-07-2006, 03:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Eliza Hodgkins 1812

I'm going to be staying in rural New Jersey, by a lake, peeping at leaves and reading books. One Halloween party gathering weekend with a bunch of friends, and then just my good friend R and I being lazy and doing not a whole heck of a lot. Not a stress to the wallet or the mind. And totally needed.

In the meantime, deep, deep breaths.

Yes, deep deep breaths! Also envisioning yourself in your bucolic New Jersey lake vacation can also help you relax and get a grip on the anxiety.

I agree (BtD?) with lists, they help a lot. I know all about needing a vacation and since I just crossed the great continental divide, moves can be stressful too. But, this is also where you call in your chits with friends to help you out, those you are comfy with, like help packing, etc. One box at a time and my big advice is, purge whatever you can! I found 3 boxes that I moved from CA to VA 7 years ago, still unpacked in a closet. Those got pitched pronto!

In the meantime, deep breaths and visualization lolling by the lake!

Kevy Baby · 09-07-2006, 09:13 PM

A good escape from anxiety? Loud, rip your clothes off, head-board-banging, sweaty, waking up the neighbors, breaking furniture, make the cat freak out, pass out afterwards because you are hyperventilating, monkey sex.

09-07-2006, 01:27 PM	#1
Strangler Lewis Doing The Job Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: In a state Posts: 3,956	I know you didn't ask for solutions, but as a man and an attorney, that's really all I know how to give. The solution is that unless you are going to forfeit a lot of money by doing so, postpone/cancel your vacation. Why, I have many pleasant memories of vacations/weekends that I've put off due to unexpected work explosions, the not-quite-so-unexpected death of my father, etc. You need time, and you need to save money to have a roof over your head (or so it seems from your tone). It's rare that one can actually remove a cause of anxiety. Here you can. __________________ Live now-pay later. Diner's Club!
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Jughead P. Jones Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Brockville, Ontario, Canada Posts: 404	There's been a lot of great responses so far, so I don't really have anything else to add. But, one thing I usually do when I feel anxious, or angry, or just plain stressed out, is put on some of the most upbeat music that I can find (it could be anything from The Killers to...ahem...Jessica Simpson), and just jump around, work up a sweat and let the music drown out your anxiety. It works for me, because I usually move so much, I flop down on a nearby chair or bed and veg out in a calm state. __________________ "I shall call him Squishy, and he shall be mine, and he shall be my Squishy!"
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katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	I drive and listen to fun upbeat music. Treadmill helps as well. And lists, even thought I hate them it does somehow seem to make it all more manageable if you write it all down. Long bath with the latest edition of People. __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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innerSpaceman Kink of Swank Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Inner Space Posts: 13,075	Regulating my breathing is all I need to get over an oncoming panick attack. By just paying attention to it, you tend to breath more deeply, more slowly ... this slows the heart rate, calms the nerves. For more persistent anxiety .... I simply suffer it. No cure known to me. BTW, if you're upcoming vacation is going to be your general life anxiety-reliever, I don't see how you could give it up. Postponement might be a neet idea though. (and if it's really going "back east," um, yeah, giving it up might be all the stress relief you need.)
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Kevy Baby Chowder Head Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Yes Posts: 18,500	A good escape from anxiety? Loud, rip your clothes off, head-board-banging, sweaty, waking up the neighbors, breaking furniture, make the cat freak out, pass out afterwards because you are hyperventilating, monkey sex. __________________ The thing about quotes on the internet is that you cannot verify their validity. - Abraham Lincoln
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