What are your pet peeves? - Page 28

BarTopDancer · 09-06-2006, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Mousey Girl

I am ticked. This Saturday night one of my closest friends is taking me to Brews in the Village for my b-day. Dawn has been trying to invite herself for a month. I kept blowing her off. I don't want her to go because when she is around I am ignored by my husband. She called this morning, she is going. Not with us, but with 2 other women that I can't stand. Luckily it is a huge place and we may not even see them. Unfortunatly I know her well enough to know that she will try to hang out with David the entire night. It is a public place and I can't stop her from being there, but gosh darn it, it is my b-day and I don't want to spend it with her!

Ok, now that I feel small and petty I will say that I don't even want to go now. If it wasn't for the friend that I am going with, and her looking forward to it, I wouldn't be going.

Have you told David your issue with Dawn? Have you pointed out how he ignores you when she is around? At the very least can you make it crystal clear to David (or your friends) that you want a Dawn free birthday? Can you get your friends to take you somewhere else, or move the time? Or tell Dawn you're going to another place? Or for that matter, tell Dawn to back the FVCK off? I'm ticked for you

BarTopDancer · 09-06-2006, 05:15 PM

ASAP means as soon as possible. Not right-this-very-second-and-if-you-don't-fix-it-right-now-i'm-going-to-throw-a-fit.

Your issue is not job critical. Get over it.

Mousey Girl · 09-06-2006, 06:46 PM

I have told him this, he doesn't care. It does me no good to try to talk to him about it, he just twists it and throws it back at me.

I just talked to the friend who is taking me out. She is such a good person. She said that we will just not have anything to do with her, and do our own thing.

We would go somewhere else, but this is a once a year thing and we have been looking forward to it. We went last year and had a blast. It is about the only time you can go out and drink and not have to deal with drunk teeny boppers. http://www.bakersfieldbrews.com/care.html

Hopefully we won't even see them.

Prudence · 09-27-2006, 08:23 AM

Somedays working on campus is a big ol' pet peeve. I know it's a university and I'm prepared to deal with the usual associated noise of students and protesters and bad performance artists and the like. But geeze louise - a 2 hour amplified hip hop concert RIGHT OUTSIDE ME WINDOW?!?! There comes a point where the disruption is significant enough that we should be sent home or at least given an alternate work space. How am I supposed to focus on balancing budgets and projecting for the next biennium when there's a big ol' amplified concert right outside?

Ghoulish Delight · 10-10-2006, 10:19 AM

* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights.

* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants

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It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr.

€uroMeinke · 10-10-2006, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

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* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing.

The gods must be with you, I read you post after finishing this NPR feature, Failure is a Good Thing.

SzczerbiakManiac · 10-10-2006, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

a version [of musical chairs] I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants

What The Fück!?! That's not even a game. That's just Prance Around Chairs to Music. Is that even remotely fun?

unbelievable (ly pathetic)

wendybeth · 10-10-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

What The Fück!?! That's not even a game. That's just Prance Around Chairs to Music. Is that even remotely fun?

unbelievable (ly pathetic)

Well, at least none of the participants wil wind up in therapy, obsessing about how they were always the one left standing. Now, they'll all be in therapy, wondering why their parents forced them to partake in such a silly and pointless activity.

Capt Jack · 10-10-2006, 10:27 AM

omg I couldnt agree more!

some of the strongest lessons in life are obtained through falling short of a goal.
lessons like:
if at first you dont succeed, try try again
nobody's perfect
sh!t happens
forgiveness begins in the mirror

and the ever popular
get over it

(I'd mojo ya iffin' I could)

katiesue · 10-10-2006, 10:52 AM

I agree as well. Also how to you learn to be a gracious looser if you never loose?

09-06-2006, 05:15 PM	#2
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09-06-2006, 06:46 PM	#3
Mousey Girl Just Me Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In The Flagon With The Dragon Posts: 2,437	I have told him this, he doesn't care. It does me no good to try to talk to him about it, he just twists it and throws it back at me. I just talked to the friend who is taking me out. She is such a good person. She said that we will just not have anything to do with her, and do our own thing. We would go somewhere else, but this is a once a year thing and we have been looking forward to it. We went last year and had a blast. It is about the only time you can go out and drink and not have to deal with drunk teeny boppers. http://www.bakersfieldbrews.com/care.html Hopefully we won't even see them.
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09-27-2006, 08:23 AM	#4
Prudence Beelzeboobs, Esq. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Gavel - I haz it Posts: 6,287	Somedays working on campus is a big ol' pet peeve. I know it's a university and I'm prepared to deal with the usual associated noise of students and protesters and bad performance artists and the like. But geeze louise - a 2 hour amplified hip hop concert RIGHT OUTSIDE ME WINDOW?!?! There comes a point where the disruption is significant enough that we should be sent home or at least given an alternate work space. How am I supposed to focus on balancing budgets and projecting for the next biennium when there's a big ol' amplified concert right outside? __________________ traguna macoities tracorum satis de
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10-10-2006, 10:19 AM	#5
Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights. * Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants ) It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr. __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ Last edited by Ghoulish Delight : 10-10-2006 at 10:42 AM.
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10-10-2006, 10:27 AM	#9
Capt Jack check your head Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 4,174	omg I couldnt agree more! some of the strongest lessons in life are obtained through falling short of a goal. lessons like: if at first you dont succeed, try try again nobody's perfect sh!t happens forgiveness begins in the mirror and the ever popular get over it (I'd mojo ya iffin' I could) __________________ a clear conscience is a sure sign of a fuzzy memory
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10-10-2006, 10:52 AM	#10
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	I agree as well. Also how to you learn to be a gracious looser if you never loose? __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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