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sleepyjeff · 10-10-2005, 08:09 PM

I am so sorry. I have never had to deal with anything like this(knocking on wood) but I imagine it would make one all numb inside......hope you and Matthew are getting thru this ok(((hugs))).

lindyhop · 10-10-2005, 08:33 PM

Wow, I don't know what to say. But hugs to you both. Stay strong.

Bornieo: Fully Loaded · 10-10-2005, 08:37 PM

Wow, so tragic. Sorry to hear you both are going through this.
Time will make things better and you both know you have a LoT of support!

Not Afraid · 10-10-2005, 08:41 PM

First of all.....((((((BIG HUGS)))))) to you both. I love you and wish the smoothest way through this for you.

Secondly, all of the feelings you may be having are completely normal - anger, sadness, frustration, regret. It's just the thing that happens when something like this happens in your life.

Untreated alcoholism is one of the most heartbreaking diseases and usually ends - eventually - in some horribly sad way. I wish he could've gotten treatment, but he chose the "other" way out. It is such a sad, sad thing - especially for those left to care.

Please take care of yourselves and please call if you need to talk. You have a lot of experience, sstrength and hope on this board and we're all here for you.

Much love,

Lisa

Motorboat Cruiser · 10-10-2005, 08:42 PM

Numb is a pretty appropriate word. We each have had our moments today and they hit you when you least expect. The place feels very empty tonight and more than ever, we just want the end of the month to come so we can start fresh in a new place and try to put this behind us. Perhaps that sounds cold but I don't mean it to. We liked him very much and felt that if he just got a break, he would be able to better himself. We just didn't realize the pain he must have been feeling.

Tomorrow is a new day. I expect we will be contacted in the morning. At that point, I'm going to see if I can get an address so that I can mail a letter to the daughter. I'm not sure how one goes about writing such a letter but I'll give it my best.

All your love and support gives us the strength that we need in the days ahead. You're all so kind and it's appreciated.

€uroMeinke · 10-10-2005, 09:08 PM

Good heavens how devestating, I can't even imagine what you and Mathew must be going through. You did everything you could do within your power, but there are some things well beyond our control. Cyberhugs to you both, I love you guys. Please call us if you need anything.

alphabassettgrrl · 10-10-2005, 09:48 PM

Oh, anger is one of the phases of grieving. My dad was a suicide (I hate "committed" suicide- one commits crimes and suicide is many things, including in my opinion, stupid, but not a crime per se) and I was furious. Sad and hurting as well, but furious was one of the phases, absolutely.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I like the suggestion of writing to the daughter. Hopefully her mother can remember good things about him, eventually.

Hang in there. Talk to us when you need to. We're here.

Mousey Girl · 10-11-2005, 01:51 AM

(((hugs)))

The anger will pass, it just will take time. The sense of loss may remain for a while longer. Since I am still dealing with this myself, I don't know what else to say...

(((hugs)))

Scrooge McSam · 10-11-2005, 06:44 AM

Big hugs to MBC and Matthew. Words just don't seem to mean much at times like this.

LSPoorEeyorick · 10-11-2005, 06:04 PM

Oh, Eric. Tom and I are heartsick for you. We've already spoken but I wanted to post my support here as well. Our thoughts are with you as you deal with your shock and grief. We send you all of our wishes for peace of heart, as impossible as the idea of it may seem to you right now. We send our strength. We send our love.

10-10-2005, 08:09 PM	#21
sleepyjeff Go Hawks Go! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Parkrose Posts: 2,632	I am so sorry. I have never had to deal with anything like this(knocking on wood) but I imagine it would make one all numb inside......hope you and Matthew are getting thru this ok(((hugs))). __________________ River Guardian-less
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10-10-2005, 08:33 PM	#22
lindyhop Swing Swank Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Long Beach Posts: 997	Wow, I don't know what to say. But hugs to you both. Stay strong.
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10-10-2005, 08:37 PM	#23
Bornieo: Fully Loaded Lego Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Disneyland, USA Posts: 3,704	Wow, so tragic. Sorry to hear you both are going through this. Time will make things better and you both know you have a LoT of support!
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10-10-2005, 08:41 PM	#24
Not Afraid HI! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 17,108	First of all.....((((((BIG HUGS)))))) to you both. I love you and wish the smoothest way through this for you. Secondly, all of the feelings you may be having are completely normal - anger, sadness, frustration, regret. It's just the thing that happens when something like this happens in your life. Untreated alcoholism is one of the most heartbreaking diseases and usually ends - eventually - in some horribly sad way. I wish he could've gotten treatment, but he chose the "other" way out. It is such a sad, sad thing - especially for those left to care. Please take care of yourselves and please call if you need to talk. You have a lot of experience, sstrength and hope on this board and we're all here for you. Much love, Lisa
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10-10-2005, 08:42 PM	#25
Motorboat Cruiser Cruiser of Motorboats Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: So Cal Posts: 3,665	Numb is a pretty appropriate word. We each have had our moments today and they hit you when you least expect. The place feels very empty tonight and more than ever, we just want the end of the month to come so we can start fresh in a new place and try to put this behind us. Perhaps that sounds cold but I don't mean it to. We liked him very much and felt that if he just got a break, he would be able to better himself. We just didn't realize the pain he must have been feeling. Tomorrow is a new day. I expect we will be contacted in the morning. At that point, I'm going to see if I can get an address so that I can mail a letter to the daughter. I'm not sure how one goes about writing such a letter but I'll give it my best. All your love and support gives us the strength that we need in the days ahead. You're all so kind and it's appreciated.
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€uroMeinke L'Hédoniste Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: A.S.C.O.T. Posts: 8,671	Good heavens how devestating, I can't even imagine what you and Mathew must be going through. You did everything you could do within your power, but there are some things well beyond our control. Cyberhugs to you both, I love you guys. Please call us if you need anything. __________________ I would believe only in a God that knows how to Dance. Friedrich Nietzsche
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10-10-2005, 09:48 PM	#27
alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	Oh, anger is one of the phases of grieving. My dad was a suicide (I hate "committed" suicide- one commits crimes and suicide is many things, including in my opinion, stupid, but not a crime per se) and I was furious. Sad and hurting as well, but furious was one of the phases, absolutely. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I like the suggestion of writing to the daughter. Hopefully her mother can remember good things about him, eventually. Hang in there. Talk to us when you need to. We're here. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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10-11-2005, 01:51 AM	#28
Mousey Girl Just Me Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In The Flagon With The Dragon Posts: 2,437	(((hugs))) The anger will pass, it just will take time. The sense of loss may remain for a while longer. Since I am still dealing with this myself, I don't know what else to say... (((hugs)))
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10-11-2005, 06:44 AM	#29
Scrooge McSam What? Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 1,635	Big hugs to MBC and Matthew. Words just don't seem to mean much at times like this.
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10-11-2005, 06:04 PM	#30
LSPoorEeyorick scribblin' Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: in the moment Posts: 3,872	Oh, Eric. Tom and I are heartsick for you. We've already spoken but I wanted to post my support here as well. Our thoughts are with you as you deal with your shock and grief. We send you all of our wishes for peace of heart, as impossible as the idea of it may seem to you right now. We send our strength. We send our love.
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