As my world turns...DRAMA - Page 3

Nephythys · 10-31-2007, 07:33 PM

New incentive- though I am unsure of the effect. My parents neighbor who has known Davis since he was born wants him to graduate- and says she will give him a "bonus"- the largest bonus she has paid to a kid to see them graduate- Based on what I know of them this could easily be a 4 digit payment (though it could be less- I am guessing)

- but I really do not know if this will sway him at all.

Nephythys · 11-06-2007, 08:25 PM

*update*

Davis has finally broken down and admitted he is not functioning and does not feel he can succeed "out here" right now. He has asked to be returned to ROP and due to some parole violations his PO is going to take him back into custody on Thursday.

He can only stay in the program until the beginning of February- hopefully those three months will allow him to get back on track. He likely would not graduate fully but perhaps he could rack up enough credits to graduate after getting a few credits afterwards- like through the Star Lab program (self study) He did tell me he wants to graduate if at all possible.

The details are not needed- nothing horrible happened but it all came to a head today. I'm sad, yet proud of him for being honest. I'm going to miss him yet I am not going to miss the chaos that was beginning to grow around our home.

I wanted to thank you all for being friends to me-having you here, even though miles seperate us- has meant alot to me. Knowing I can come here and talk to you-with any luck I will still be out in March with Davis. Keep us all in prayers and well wishes.

BarTopDancer · 11-06-2007, 08:27 PM

Hey Nephy,

It is HUGE that D can admit he needs more help and isn't functioning in "out here" right now.

Perhaps they have a transition program and can teach some independent living skills so he doesn't become "institutionalized' and rely on the structure placement provides and will be able to move forward sucessfuly after Feb.

wendybeth · 11-06-2007, 08:34 PM

BTD is right- that is totally amazing and shows a lot of maturity and growth on his part. He's going to be just fine once he makes it through these teen years; anyone who thinks the teen years are the best and easiest time of one's life is an idiot. I wouldn't go back to that time for anything.

Snowflake · 11-06-2007, 08:35 PM

Nephy

Hugs to you and to Davis, both of you are showing lots of courage. I gotta say, he's got a good head on him and some cojones if he can, at this young age, see and admit to needing help and to step back in order to move forward. Good for him! And you can tell him I said so, too!

Sending good thoughts and prayers to all of you guys & gals. {{HUGS}}

Snow

Kevy Baby · 11-06-2007, 09:20 PM

Davis is taking responsibility for himself. He is able to recognize when he needs help and is strong enough to know when to ask for it. He loves you and trusts you enough to be able to come to you with that.

I admire the two of you for that.

blueerica · 11-06-2007, 09:49 PM

Aww!

I know that sounds cheesy, but it was my first reaction once I read your post, Nephy. It's a big step in what seems to be a good direction. I concur with the above posts that this is a very mature foot forward for Davis, and I'm proud of the two of you for making it through. I can't imagine it's ever been easy.

My thoughts will continue to be with you guys, as they seem to be more often than I end up saying on here.

Disneyphile · 11-06-2007, 09:53 PM

Davis has come such a looooooooooooooong way, and I'm proud of him. People generally don't fully "get well" until they recognize their own issue, and it sounds like he's finally reached that stage.

I know it's hard having the family separated once again, but sometimes, we have to let people go for what's best for them. And, this will only help keep the family together in the future. It's not lost time, but quality time gained later on.

*hugs*

lashbear · 11-07-2007, 02:27 AM

I'm sending you both supportive hugs from the lashpair Downunder, and still expect to see you both out here sometime.

Motorboat Cruiser · 11-07-2007, 10:29 AM

Just wanted to chime in as well and say that it sounds like Davis is really stepping forward, even if it seems like a step back, by recognizing that he needs help and asking for it. That's a hell of a big step.

Virtual hugs and positive thoughts to both of you.

10-31-2007, 07:33 PM	#21
Nephythys Yeah, that's about it- Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In a state of constant crap to get done Posts: 2,688	New incentive- though I am unsure of the effect. My parents neighbor who has known Davis since he was born wants him to graduate- and says she will give him a "bonus"- the largest bonus she has paid to a kid to see them graduate- Based on what I know of them this could easily be a 4 digit payment (though it could be less- I am guessing) - but I really do not know if this will sway him at all.
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11-06-2007, 08:25 PM	#22
Nephythys Yeah, that's about it- Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In a state of constant crap to get done Posts: 2,688	update Davis has finally broken down and admitted he is not functioning and does not feel he can succeed "out here" right now. He has asked to be returned to ROP and due to some parole violations his PO is going to take him back into custody on Thursday. He can only stay in the program until the beginning of February- hopefully those three months will allow him to get back on track. He likely would not graduate fully but perhaps he could rack up enough credits to graduate after getting a few credits afterwards- like through the Star Lab program (self study) He did tell me he wants to graduate if at all possible. The details are not needed- nothing horrible happened but it all came to a head today. I'm sad, yet proud of him for being honest. I'm going to miss him yet I am not going to miss the chaos that was beginning to grow around our home. I wanted to thank you all for being friends to me-having you here, even though miles seperate us- has meant alot to me. Knowing I can come here and talk to you-with any luck I will still be out in March with Davis. Keep us all in prayers and well wishes.
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11-06-2007, 08:27 PM	#23
BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	Hey Nephy, It is HUGE that D can admit he needs more help and isn't functioning in "out here" right now. Perhaps they have a transition program and can teach some independent living skills so he doesn't become "institutionalized' and rely on the structure placement provides and will be able to move forward sucessfuly after Feb. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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11-06-2007, 08:34 PM	#24
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	BTD is right- that is totally amazing and shows a lot of maturity and growth on his part. He's going to be just fine once he makes it through these teen years; anyone who thinks the teen years are the best and easiest time of one's life is an idiot. I wouldn't go back to that time for anything. __________________
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11-06-2007, 08:35 PM	#25
Snowflake lost in the fog Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: San Francisco Posts: 7,831	Nephy Hugs to you and to Davis, both of you are showing lots of courage. I gotta say, he's got a good head on him and some cojones if he can, at this young age, see and admit to needing help and to step back in order to move forward. Good for him! And you can tell him I said so, too! Sending good thoughts and prayers to all of you guys & gals. {{HUGS}} Snow __________________ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. - Oscar Wilde
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11-06-2007, 09:20 PM	#26
Kevy Baby Chowder Head Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Yes Posts: 18,500	Davis is taking responsibility for himself. He is able to recognize when he needs help and is strong enough to know when to ask for it. He loves you and trusts you enough to be able to come to you with that. I admire the two of you for that. __________________ The thing about quotes on the internet is that you cannot verify their validity. - Abraham Lincoln
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11-06-2007, 09:49 PM	#27
blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	Aww! I know that sounds cheesy, but it was my first reaction once I read your post, Nephy. It's a big step in what seems to be a good direction. I concur with the above posts that this is a very mature foot forward for Davis, and I'm proud of the two of you for making it through. I can't imagine it's ever been easy. My thoughts will continue to be with you guys, as they seem to be more often than I end up saying on here. __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me
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11-06-2007, 09:53 PM	#28
Disneyphile SQUIRREL! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: On the curbside. Posts: 5,098	Davis has come such a looooooooooooooong way, and I'm proud of him. People generally don't fully "get well" until they recognize their own issue, and it sounds like he's finally reached that stage. I know it's hard having the family separated once again, but sometimes, we have to let people go for what's best for them. And, this will only help keep the family together in the future. It's not lost time, but quality time gained later on. hugs
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11-07-2007, 02:27 AM	#29
lashbear SwishBuckling Bear Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In Isolation :) Posts: 6,597	I'm sending you both supportive hugs from the lashpair Downunder, and still expect to see you *both* out here sometime. __________________ *I Heart* my Husband - I can't think of anyone I'd rather be in isolation with.**
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11-07-2007, 10:29 AM	#30
Motorboat Cruiser Cruiser of Motorboats Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: So Cal Posts: 3,665	Just wanted to chime in as well and say that it sounds like Davis is really stepping forward, even if it seems like a step back, by recognizing that he needs help and asking for it. That's a hell of a big step. Virtual hugs and positive thoughts to both of you.
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