Sooooo.....

[Tref]

Originally Posted by JWBear

I don't think there had been any deaths yet at the time I posted that. (And if there had been, I hadn't heard of them yet.)

So... lets compare the two

Who cares? So somebody made a joke. Get over it -- everybody. There is not one here among you on LoT who has not told, posted (or laughed) at an inappropriate joke, so this phony indignation is just plain dumb. We are all morbid in our own way, and it is even healthy to laugh at that which we most fear. I am sure we are all creative enough to find a way to express our displeasure without trying to shame another.

[Kevy Baby]

Originally Posted by Tref

There is not one here among you on LoT who has not told, posted (or laughed) at an inappropriate joke, so this phony indignation is just plain dumb.

I have NEVER done such a thing, so I get to be pompously self-righteous!

[BarTopDancer]

Originally Posted by blueerica

I just didn't realize how hard it would be to feel so far away. I'm just a quick plane ride away, but to what avail? She could go any minute now, and I got to have that "last conversation" with her last week, before and after they worked on her collapsed lung. How many people ever get that? Do I go back for a funeral, a memorial, a celebration of a life well-lived?

I think you should come back when you feel the need to come back. Airfare isn't that horrible and if it helps you through the process then...

[LSPoorEeyorick]

I agree with BTD.

As I grappled with whether or not (or how long) to return to Michigan, a few people told me that whatever my decision was, whatever the consequence, I would not regret any time I spent with her. And I really didn't. All I can recommend is doing what your heart tells you to do.

[innerSpaceman]

Yeah, i don't read Soooooo so often, so I'm so late in responding to so much.


I realize I went overboard with my no-boyfriend-yet activist stuff. I won't deny it was on my mind, but it was always said in humor and I didn't realize until CP pointed it out that it was seeming a bit protest-too-much.

That was a great service to me. Sometimes I don't realize I've said something a zillion times before if it's still on my mind. Pfft, I just posted something in the Post Prop 8 thread today about Obama that was almost a word-for-word retread of what I posted yesterday. (There was a new wrinkle, but I would have left out the Obama part if I'd remembered I'd posted it just the day before).


Anyway, thanks to CP or anyone who calls me on my sh!t or anything hinting of ulterior motivation. Often we don't see ourselves as well as others see us. Sometimes those observations are incorrect, but it never hurts to check them out with a self-reality-check.


I quit gay activism this week. I wasn't feeling the post-Supremes-Decision passion nearly as much as I'd imagined I would. I feel perfectly comfortable with others carrying on, and with my life not so inundated and dominated by gay activism. But in all honesty, if a few of the dozens of pals I made had become good friends, I might have continued just for the fun of it.

I won't deny that a major benefit, perhaps THE major one, of anything I get involved in is the friendships that might form. I can't be sustained by the "thing" alone, even if that thing is somewhat important. While I would have been happy finding a boyfriend, it wasn't something I expected or demanded in order to be satisfied. But no social friendships among the many, many pals I've made after six months is a great disappointment that I cannot abide.

Sure, if I still felt as passionately about The Cause, no close friends or lovers would not make a difference. But the lack of real friendships was indeed a deciding factor in me dropping the SGA from my name.


It's going to be a difficult transition from constant activity to really nothing going on.

Heck of a time to be tempted by the new iPhone.

[innerSpaceman]

<<<Hugs>>>> Miss Erica.



And yeah, JW, I over-reacted about the hot Iranians. The shootings were just fresh in my mind at that moment.

[JWBear]

Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

And yeah, JW, I over-reacted about the hot Iranians. The shootings were just fresh in my mind at that moment.

That's ok... Goddess knows I've never overreacted to something posted here here...

[lashbear]

Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

It was the fact that you seemed to mention it every single time you brought up your involvement that made her (and others) start to question just how joking it was.

Not necessarily... We make lots of comments about how cute you look with the beard and how we all want to get down and... well, you know. Anyhow, we say it lots, but you still know we're only joking.

right?



...or are we ?

[RStar]

Love you guys, warts and all.....

[wendybeth]

Those are beauty marks, mister.