Who's your Daddy?

[Prudence]

I don't understand how so many women have babies with paternal uncertainty. I experience this perplexion every time I stay home and watch Maury Povich. Do other married women not use birth control? If you're cheating, wouldn't that *definitely* be the time *to* use birth control? It doesn't seem logical.

Or maybe it isn't logical. Maybe it's some primative drive to seek out the best genetic material and one isn't sure one's spouse fits the bill. No idea.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by Prudence

Do other married women not use birth control? If you're cheating, wouldn't that *definitely* be the time *to* use birth control? It doesn't seem logical.

Lying to your spouse isn't logical. I don't expect much logic in the whole situation.

[€uroMeinke]

Also, all forms of birth control have some error rate, so given a large enough population od cheating spouses, you should find a fair amount of offspring from said population, despite the use of birth control.

[tracilicious]

Originally Posted by €uroMeinke

To circle back to the original situation, if you remove the elements of sexuality what you really have is the ethics of keeping secrets and betraying confidences. As a dissintereted 3rd party (the Doctor) what should he or she divulge and to whom?

I think we're all pretty clear that the best situation is where a couple is honest which it other. But this is an example of where they are not.

Being that the pregnant woman is his (or her) patient, his obligation is to respect her confidentiality. He has no professional relationship with her husband, so he isn't obligated to tell him anything without her permission. In fact, doing so would be illegal.

In my opinion, that's the way things should be. If the woman feels she can trust the doctor, then she's more likely to be honest about genetically/medically important information.

[tracilicious]

Originally Posted by €uroMeinke

I think we're all pretty clear that the best situation is where a couple is honest which it other. But this is an example of where they are not.

Honest which it other? You've been drinking too much of what's in your avatar, methinks.

[€uroMeinke]

Originally Posted by tracilicious

Honest which it other? You've been drinking too much of what's in your avatar, methinks.

If it weren't for Spell check it would become painfully obvious that I'm a "C" speller - thankfully, as an admin on these boreds, I can still use the edit button

Cheers,

[Prudence]

Originally Posted by €uroMeinke

Also, all forms of birth control have some error rate, so given a large enough population od cheating spouses, you should find a fair amount of offspring from said population, despite the use of birth control.

Yeah, but 1 in 25 exceeds the failure rate for most forms of birth control. By quite a lot, in some cases. Which leaves a bunch of people clearly not at all considering long term consequences -- even the more practical ones.

[€uroMeinke]

Originally Posted by Prudence

Yeah, but 1 in 25 exceeds the failure rate for most forms of birth control. By quite a lot, in some cases. Which leaves a bunch of people clearly not at all considering long term consequences -- even the more practical ones.

Such is the nature of love and lust

[Ghoulish Delight]

Originally Posted by Prudence

Yeah, but 1 in 25 exceeds the failure rate for most forms of birth control. By quite a lot, in some cases. Which leaves a bunch of people clearly not at all considering long term consequences -- even the more practical ones.

That doesn't exceed the failure rate by as much as you'd think. It exceeds the failure rate with proper useage by a lot, but most evidence shows that a distressingly large number of people don't follow proper useage.

[katiesue]

Originally Posted by Prudence

I don't understand how so many women have babies with paternal uncertainty. I experience this perplexion every time I stay home and watch Maury Povich. Do other married women not use birth control? If you're cheating, wouldn't that *definitely* be the time *to* use birth control? It doesn't seem logical.

Or maybe it isn't logical. Maybe it's some primative drive to seek out the best genetic material and one isn't sure one's spouse fits the bill. No idea.

I've never understood this either. It's very easy to do and you'd think if you were smart enough to sneak around without getting caught you'd be smart enough to take precautions.

I also have never understood married couples who do not want more children but do nothing to prevent it. And don't get me started on the women who get pregnant on purpose to "trap" the guy - yea that's a great way to start a relationship - that'll work.

Also besides pregnancy there are those nasty STD's and HIV which can then be passed along to the innocent spouse.