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Alex · 07-23-2010, 02:23 PM

I'm not sure why it was such an offensive thing. Sure, he shouldn't just stand there, but it relative terms it doesn't really matter if he's standing still or if he's an 80-year-old woman out for her morning constitutional at the breakneck speed of 0.4 miles an hour. Even if he'd still been jogging with his back to you you'd have had to go around him.

So while I can see being a bit annoyed I don't see how what he was doing in any way was worse for you than what he'd have been doing anyway.

Ghoulish Delight · 07-23-2010, 02:27 PM

It was the combination of the 3 (standing in lanes, on a phone, back to traffic), demonstrating a general lack of attention to what was going on around him, thus making him a greater hazard than another slow-moving individual.

Kevy Baby · 07-23-2010, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

I pulled kind of an asshole move on my bike yesterday, but dude totally deserved it.

That was a bit of a dick move on your part. And I would have done the exact same thing.

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Originally Posted by RStar

I've been up for 24 hours. After 8 hours at work I had to take my wife to the ER because her foot swelled up like a balloon and she was having chest pains. After 12 hours in the ER they transferred her to the hospital. I just got home. It was 11:30 yesterday morning when I last ate, so I'm going to grab a bite, and get some sleep. Tomorrow I'll be back at the hospital as she will go through more test on her heart.

I hope your wife is better soon and the tests show it is nothing too serious.

And I hope you can get some rest so you can take good care of her (and you).

Mousey Girl · 07-23-2010, 02:35 PM

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Seems to me the "time outs" I was given as a child weren't helpful at all. (They called it "standing in the corner" when I was a kid.) I've always thought that the concept of time out has been misused. If you've got a child that is too hyped up or busy having a tantrum to listen, then it's time for a time out - a cool off period. Maybe that's what I'd call it. "Let's take a moment to cool off." Instead of being a punishment, more of a lesson in counting to 10 before saying or doing something rash. This might be helpful for me as well...

That is pretty much the way I use it now. The Boy has some major anger issues. I can usually tell when he is getting ready to explode. If I can't diffuse him fast enough I send him to his room until he can talk to me in a normal voice, and be rational about what is upsetting him.

LSPoorEeyorick · 07-23-2010, 03:10 PM

Bob, wishing your wife good health.

On the topic of parental punishment... I very rarely received physical punishment, which I appreciated because my mother had rage issues and I fear for what would have happened to my siblings and I, had she not broken the cycle of physical abuse in her family. She was always very proud to have broken that cycle, and urged us to break the cycle of verbal abuse with our own children.

I rarely needed to be punished, because I very much did not want to be punished. I was frequently on the receiving end of her verbal rages (directed at whoever was nearest, during times of stress - hostessing, holiday or vacation prep especially.) Having experienced that, and having seen how she came down on my mischievous older brother, I knew how much rage she was capable of releasing when someone hadn't even done anything to deserve it. And it made me very, very eager to please. You probably see the results of this in me still today.

Once she dealt with what was causing all the rage (she's a survivor of all kinds of pretty terrible abuse at the hands of her family) she was very clear about mistakes she'd made, and very apologetic to us as adults.

katiesue · 07-23-2010, 03:39 PM

Bob I hope your wife is feeling better. And that you got some rest.

innerSpaceman · 07-23-2010, 03:43 PM

My dad used to beat me with a belt.

But I don't think I was supposed to grow up to like that kind of thing.

Gemini Cricket · 07-23-2010, 05:16 PM

Sore throat and trouble breathing turned out to be bronchitis. Great. But I'm on antibiotics now. I only need to take it for 3 days. Cool! I've never had that before. Usually it's 10 days or two weeks...

Azithromycin

I'm not posting this on Facebook because I think my cast mates would be pissed at me. But what did I know? I just went to the doc today.

All kinds of phlegm coming up. Yuckers.

Cadaverous Pallor · 07-23-2010, 05:35 PM

Don't you hate it when you want to buy a gift card but you can only get values of $25 or $50, but what you really want to buy is in between? Grrr. I mean, hello, $25 doesn't buy you much at all these days.

Gemini Cricket · 07-23-2010, 05:43 PM

CP ~ I love your avatar pic. Theo's look says, "Not now, Mom. I'm thinking."

07-23-2010, 02:23 PM	#7351
Alex . Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 13,354	I'm not sure why it was such an offensive thing. Sure, he shouldn't just stand there, but it relative terms it doesn't really matter if he's standing still or if he's an 80-year-old woman out for her morning constitutional at the breakneck speed of 0.4 miles an hour. Even if he'd still been jogging with his back to you you'd have had to go around him. So while I can see being a bit annoyed I don't see how what he was doing in any way was worse for you than what he'd have been doing anyway.
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Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	It was the combination of the 3 (standing in lanes, on a phone, back to traffic), demonstrating a general lack of attention to what was going on around him, thus making him a greater hazard than another slow-moving individual. __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ
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07-23-2010, 03:10 PM	#7355
LSPoorEeyorick scribblin' Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: in the moment Posts: 3,872	Bob, wishing your wife good health. On the topic of parental punishment... I very rarely received physical punishment, which I appreciated because my mother had rage issues and I fear for what would have happened to my siblings and I, had she not broken the cycle of physical abuse in her family. She was always very proud to have broken that cycle, and urged us to break the cycle of verbal abuse with our own children. I rarely needed to be punished, because I very much did not want to be punished. I was frequently on the receiving end of her verbal rages (directed at whoever was nearest, during times of stress - hostessing, holiday or vacation prep especially.) Having experienced that, and having seen how she came down on my mischievous older brother, I knew how much rage she was capable of releasing when someone hadn't even done anything to deserve it. And it made me very, very eager to please. You probably see the results of this in me still today. Once she dealt with what was causing all the rage (she's a survivor of all kinds of pretty terrible abuse at the hands of her family) she was very clear about mistakes she'd made, and very apologetic to us as adults. Last edited by LSPoorEeyorick : 07-23-2010 at 03:18 PM.
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katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	Bob I hope your wife is feeling better. And that you got some rest. __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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innerSpaceman Kink of Swank Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Inner Space Posts: 13,075	My dad used to beat me with a belt. But I don't think I was supposed to grow up to like that kind of thing.
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07-23-2010, 05:16 PM	#7358
Gemini Cricket ... Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 13,244	Sore throat and trouble breathing turned out to be bronchitis. Great. But I'm on antibiotics now. I only need to take it for 3 days. Cool! I've never had that before. Usually it's 10 days or two weeks... Azithromycin I'm not posting this on Facebook because I think my cast mates would be pissed at me. But what did I know? I just went to the doc today. All kinds of phlegm coming up. Yuckers.
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07-23-2010, 05:35 PM	#7359
Cadaverous Pallor ohhhh baby Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Parental Bliss Posts: 12,364	Don't you hate it when you want to buy a gift card but you can only get values of $25 or $50, but what you really want to buy is in between? Grrr. I mean, hello, $25 doesn't buy you much at all these days. __________________ The second star to the right shines in the night for you
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Gemini Cricket ... Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 13,244	CP ~ I love your avatar pic. Theo's look says, "Not now, Mom. I'm thinking."
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