The Gay Thread

[Chernabog]

Originally Posted by Alex

I assume the mechanism on which it depends is "whether I engage in it or not"?

No, I am not that egotistical.

I did however do a quick google search and found this to be interesting:

While reading Nancy Adler's excellent International Dimensions of Organizational Behavior I came across this reflexion on stereotypes which made me rethink my first judgement, ie. stereotypes are bad™.

Stereotypes, like other forms of categories, can be helpful or harmful depending on how we use them. Effective stereotyping allows people to understand and act appropriately in new situations. A stereotype becomes helpful when it is:
*Consciously held. People should be aware they are describing a group norm rather than the characteristics of a specific individual.
*Descriptive rather than evaluative. The stereotype should describe what people from this group will probably be like and not evaluate the people as good or bad.
*Accurate. The stereotype should accurately describe the norm for the group to which the person belongs
*The first best guess about a group prior to acquiring information about the specific person or persons involved
*Modified, based on further observation and experience with the actual people and situations.

The interesting part about stereotypes in the end is that they can be used as a tool which provides us with the necessary caution or distance we might need to avoid culture shock. Knowing that the Germans are always on time might save the day when you show up at a business meeting, although of course, there are Germans who are constantly late. But trust me, not all French wear a béret, although many do like baguette.

Just interesting food for thought.

[JWBear]

Maybe he's one of those metrosexuals.

[innerSpaceman]

No. To put a fine but pertinent point on it, it's the type of behavior you're supposed to be avoiding. ("you're" as in "you straight folk").


Not all gays see it this way, but I do. Black people can use the "N" word all the damn day long, and I can say "fag" and "that's so gay" with abandon. And I can call Andrew Shirvell a mincing fairy faggot because he behaves so stereotypically like one. But perhaps it's less pc if straight people do the same.


Gays have a certain licence. Oh, I admit it reeks of hypocrisy and double-standards and is certainly far from politically correct. But I for one am not one to adhere to pc uber alis.


Perhaps it takes one to know one - but when gays say Shirvell is a fag, I just take that as authoritative rather than bigoted. Straights' Mileage May Vary.

[Chernabog]

Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

Perhaps it takes one to know one - but when gays say Shirvell is a fag, I just take that as authoritative rather than bigoted. Straights' Mileage May Vary.

And yes, for the record, I think that Shirvell is a closeted homo. BIG TIME. And I got that from watching the Daily Show segment, not just because he had a bizarre blog. When you are gay, you are really, really attuned to this stuff. It isn't meant as a slight that he's gay, it is meant simply to show that he's a hypocrite.

[innerSpaceman]

That's putting the cart before the horse, Alex. Obviously if one considers a stereotype to be accurate and harmless, one is apt to use it* - while if one considers a different stereotype to be faulty and harmful, one is apt to avoid it.








* or at least not studiously avoid using it.

[Alex]

Ok, let's use that. The situation we're talking about here violated almost every one of those bullet points for making a stereotype useful. A) Because it isn't being applied pre-emptively to a group but post hoc to an individual, and B) I'm not sure how there's much value in a "swishy men are gay" stereotype (and thought that one was considered bad).

And if this were an isolated case I probably wouldn't care much. But I'd say at least 90% of the time that some man (gay bashing women don't ever seem to get pre-emptively labeled as self-loathing lesbians) comes to prominence for anti-gay remarks or actions, someone is out there adding "and he's obviously a closeted self-loathing homo."

[innerSpaceman]

Originally Posted by Alex

And if this were an isolated case I probably wouldn't care much. But I'd say at least 90% of the time that some man (gay bashing women don't ever seem to get pre-emptively labeled as self-loathing lesbians) comes to prominence for anti-gay remarks or actions, someone is out there adding "and he's obviously a closeted self-loathing homo."

Only now it seems you're the one applying your observations about a group to a single individual. People aren't stereotyping Shirvell as gay simply because so many extreme gay-bashers turn out to be self-loathers, but primarily on observation of him as an individual who acts and speaks in a stereotypically gay manner. So whether it's applied to gay-bashers "90% of the time" is irrelevant to how it's being applied in this particular case.

[Ghoulish Delight]

It still using his sexual identity as an attack. It's not a friendly, "What up my fag homie!" It's pointedly, "You're a fvcking pathetic closet case." And all that says is, "Yup, sexuality is fair game when trying to publicly shame someone" which I find pretty distasteful, no matter the orientation of the person it's coming from.

[JWBear]

Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

It still using his sexual identity as an attack. It's not a friendly, "What up my fag homie!" It's pointedly, "You're a fvcking pathetic closet case." And all that says is, "Yup, sexuality is fair game when trying to publicly shame someone" which I find pretty distasteful, no matter the orientation of the person it's coming from.

Just my two cents... To me, it's not attacking his sexuality, but his hypocrisy.

[Ghoulish Delight]

Originally Posted by JWBear

Just my two cents... To me, it's not attacking his sexuality, but his hypocrisy.

Except to get to the point of hypocrisy you first have to make an armchair call about his sexuality.

Plus, the hypocrisy is irrelevant. What he's done is no more or less offensive if he's straight or gay. He's a bigoted asshole and a bully either way.