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wendybeth · 12-19-2006, 09:47 PM

I have a good friend who was raising her three kids in much the manner and philosophy that Traci is. It hasn't worked out as well as she thought. I'm not saying it won't for Traci- truth be told, it's very early in the game for her and her family. There are, as with any sort of parenting philosophy, so many variables that could upset the apple cart. I don't even pretend to have a plan, other than teaching my kid to treat people as she'd like to be treated, realise that everyone has strengths and weaknesses and just because one is better at something does not mean that they are superior beings. We engage in mild forms of competition, such as video or board games, but don't really play any sports except dance, which is not at all competitive at this point.

I despise overenthused sports parents but if they want to mess up their own kids so be it. I also don't think completely nixing competition is a good idea- just how the hell are the kids going to function in the real world? It's naive to expect the entire human race to just stop doing something so basic to our nature. Learning to temper it is fine, but isn't that what most people do as they grow? Anyway, I think all this non-competition stuff with kids older than pre-school age is asinine.

Strangler Lewis · 12-20-2006, 10:07 AM

My kids have never had a pop tart either. The only Barbie things that my daughter has received have come from others. Her favorite toy is her Anne Frank playhouse.* Watch Anne put her finger to her lips and go "Ssh."

More later. Back to work.

*Bergen Belsen and typhus sold separately.

tracilicious · 12-20-2006, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by wendybeth

I have a good friend who was raising her three kids in much the manner and philosophy that Traci is. It hasn't worked out as well as she thought. I'm not saying it won't for Traci- truth be told, it's very early in the game for her and her family. There are, as with any sort of parenting philosophy, so many variables that could upset the apple cart. I don't even pretend to have a plan, other than teaching my kid to treat people as she'd like to be treated, realise that everyone has strengths and weaknesses and just because one is better at something does not mean that they are superior beings. We engage in mild forms of competition, such as video or board games, but don't really play any sports except dance, which is not at all competitive at this point.

I could say the same about so many mainstream parents. I think the variables thing is the key. I really don't want to come off as sounding like I think I know everything about parenting. All I know is that as often as humanly possible I will work with my kids instead of doing something to them, and instead of punishing and rewarding I will teach. I'm not sure how that can go wrong.

wendybeth · 12-20-2006, 10:58 AM

You're raising your kids to the best of your ability and in a manner that you have reasoned will produce positive results, Traci. I personally think it's great, but no matter what we all do our kids will still think we sucked as parents and vow to do better when they raise theirs.

Then we, as grandparents, get to sit back, relax and just have fun with the little ones- let the parents worry about all that formative stuff.

Alex · 12-20-2006, 11:33 AM

My view is that over the millennia many, many different methods of child rearing have been tried and they all seem to result in roughly the same distribution of adult personalities.

How you choose do it, so long as it isn't extremely abusive/manipulative, doesn't really seem to make much difference. So do it how you want.

What I care about is when one person decides that a "method" should be enforced on all the others. And this happens in schools a lot where kids are forced to come together. It is an understandable impulse but I don't like it any more.

But then, I am still caught up on the extremely foreign concept of people acquiring kids intentionally. What form of mental illness is that?

BarTopDancer · 12-20-2006, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by wendybeth

Then we, as grandparents, get to sit back, relax and just have fun with the little ones- let the parents worry about all that formative stuff.

Is there an announcement you'd like to share with the class?

wendybeth · 12-20-2006, 11:46 AM

God, no. Just maybe someday...in the very distant future.

12-19-2006, 09:47 PM	#81
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	I have a good friend who was raising her three kids in much the manner and philosophy that Traci is. It hasn't worked out as well as she thought. I'm not saying it won't for Traci- truth be told, it's very early in the game for her and her family. There are, as with any sort of parenting philosophy, so many variables that could upset the apple cart. I don't even pretend to have a plan, other than teaching my kid to treat people as she'd like to be treated, realise that everyone has strengths and weaknesses and just because one is better at something does not mean that they are superior beings. We engage in mild forms of competition, such as video or board games, but don't really play any sports except dance, which is not at all competitive at this point. I despise overenthused sports parents but if they want to mess up their own kids so be it. I also don't think completely nixing competition is a good idea- just how the hell are the kids going to function in the real world? It's naive to expect the entire human race to just stop doing something so basic to our nature. Learning to temper it is fine, but isn't that what most people do as they grow? Anyway, I think all this non-competition stuff with kids older than pre-school age is asinine. __________________
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Strangler Lewis Doing The Job Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: In a state Posts: 3,956	My kids have never had a pop tart either. The only Barbie things that my daughter has received have come from others. Her favorite toy is her Anne Frank playhouse.* Watch Anne put her finger to her lips and go "Ssh." More later. Back to work. *Bergen Belsen and typhus sold separately. __________________ Live now-pay later. Diner's Club!
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12-20-2006, 10:58 AM	#84
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	You're raising your kids to the best of your ability and in a manner that you have reasoned will produce positive results, Traci. I personally think it's great, but no matter what we all do our kids will still think we sucked as parents and vow to do better when they raise theirs. Then we, as grandparents, get to sit back, relax and just have fun with the little ones- let the parents worry about all that formative stuff. __________________
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12-20-2006, 11:33 AM	#85
Alex . Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 13,354	My view is that over the millennia many, many different methods of child rearing have been tried and they all seem to result in roughly the same distribution of adult personalities. How you choose do it, so long as it isn't extremely abusive/manipulative, doesn't really seem to make much difference. So do it how you want. What I care about is when one person decides that a "method" should be enforced on all the others. And this happens in schools a lot where kids are forced to come together. It is an understandable impulse but I don't like it any more. But then, I am still caught up on the extremely foreign concept of people acquiring kids intentionally. What form of mental illness is that?
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wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	God, no. Just maybe someday...in the very distant future. __________________
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