No I'm not. I just disagree with some of it.

We're on the same side of the fence on the fact that there are bigots out there.

But I disagree with your "Semantic pedantry" position.

Why must people who support gay rights (which I believe almost every active poster on this board is) be subject to attack for being a breeder?

That I hold my wife's hand in public or refer to my wife in conversation, etc. does not mean I am flaunting it. I am not going to suppress who I am.

I am sorry that homosexuals are attacked (from glares to physical violence) for the simple displays of affection in public that heterosexuals can enjoy. I will be the first person to come to your defense when a bigot makes him/herself known (I've even yelled at a family member for such bigotry). But don't berate me for the fact that I can and don't expect me to stop.

Do you really think that anyone here (on LoT) does otherwise? I've seen no evidence of it.

I think all public displays of affection should be stopped, except for masturbation. That way, no one knows anyone's orientation. ;)

And, this is the same root of the issue we discussed much earlier involving recognition of marriage.

I was comparing this recently to other things that one "cannot" do and how far friends and loved ones should be expected to go to be "supportive". I'm a sober alcoholic. I don't drink alcohol at all. However, many of my friends and my husband does. Would I expect them to not drink around me because I'm sober? Heck no! I expect them to not offer me a drink, but the issue is mine and it's up to me to not drink no matter WHAT circumstances surround me.

I know many couples where one is a vegetarian and the other is a meatatarian. Is one supposed to completely change their preferred diet to match the other one? Heck no.

People are free to do what they want in life (legally) and deal with the consequences of their choices. Depending on others to "get on your bandwagon" or "approve of your choice" or "change their own lives to fit the ideals of others" are pretty fu<ked up IMHO.

Please re-read my posts, and then quote for me where I attacked anyone or asked them to stop displaying any references to their sexuality. Please. Anyone?

All I am trying to do is point out that straight people display their sexuality in numerous ways - day in and day out - whether they realize it or not. And that any attempt by gay people to display their sexuality in a similar manner is looked on by society as inappropriate. A double standard.

That, and only that, is my point. If you read anything else in what I said, then you are missing the point – spectacularly.

I got what you were doing

(speaking only for myself)
Because I fear for my safety and/or personal property. Obviously, this varies geographically, but only in the gayest of gay neighborhoods would I feel comfortable exercising my right to a PDA with my sweetheart. Hell, even WeHo has its share of gay bashings.

And you've missed my point. No, I don't think there is only one way that people glean sexuality. My POINT is that, being the minority, the cues that homosexuals end up by necessity using to call attention to their sexuality are by comparison, overt, explicit, and "in your face" because, by definition, they are different than what we see 90% of the time.

Even if same sex marriage becomes legal and commonplace among same sex couples, a man saying, "This is my husband" is going to stand out as "not normal" because 90% of men don't have husbands.

That's my only point. As I said, and Moonliner said, and Betty said, we still consider XBox's reaction wrong. Considering those kinds of overt declarations "inappropriate" is wrong. But no amount of social acceptance is going to change the fact that a large majority of people are heterosexual, that assuming heterosexuality is a rational default, and that idenfying yourself as homosexual is going to remain a conspicuous departure from "normal" (and by "normal" I mean "commonplace") conversation.

ETA: Of course, that's why the media can hold such power. It's a way to artificially skew that ratio higher so that it DOES become more commonplace.

Thank you.

I don't think JW Bear suggested that any of the straights here should stop doing anything. All he said was that he doesn't get to enjoy the same easy privileges.

Now, having seen some of his Second Life creations, If I were an online gamer, I would be very concerned that he would want to f*ck my avatar.

And, that's why I think gays should hold hands/kiss/etc. in public just as much as straights do, regardless of how they are looked upon, because once it happens often enough, it will blend into the mainstream.

Take a look at interracial couples for example. Appearing together in public was hard for many people to swallow, but as it became more common, society finally started to relax a bit.

Don't let the thoughts of others govern your freedoms that they CAN'T take away - the freedom to love, the freedom to be together, the freedom of affection wherever and whenever. That is what will truly help in gaining the freedoms that can be governed by society. Because, once it's no longer a "big deal", it won't be.