I'll never forget the Dad who met me at the door carrying his Army rifle the first time I came to pick up his daughter. He was a man of few words, but a very effective communicator.

I couldn't say for sure who my first BF was... It's hard to remember back to the Ice Age....

Actually, I think it was me.

I had my first girlfriend when I was thirteen, and we started having sex at that age. Yep, folks, kids start getting horny when puberty hits ... and we found nothing naturally objectionable about acting on that.


My mom felt differently, I think. At least when she caught us in the act in my bedroom, she "forbid" us to have sex in the house after that. (So we usually had our trysts in my attic).


Nature cannot be stopped. If your kid has the hots for a girl or guy, the best you can do is educate them and support their decision. There's no way to "stop" them from behaviour that Mother Nature condones.




Oh, and though I started sleeping with guys when I was 16, I didn't have my first real boyfriend till I was 41! (see the above photo posted by Isaac (fka zapppop) of us in our hotel suite in Paris, about a year after we started dating.)


I'd sure like to find my first girlfriend again and learn what she's been up to. I was so in love with her.


Oh, and I still love isaac ... and just about everyone else I've ever had a serious romantic relationship with.



Love is grand. Sex is awesome. Don't try to stand in the way.

I think I had my first "serious" girlfriend when I was 13, but in retrospect everything was serious and... nothing sexual happened that you wouldn't see in a PG movie (not even PG-13). We did have a heavy make-out session at a movie theater during Star Trek:The Motion Picture ... it really helped the movie.

My parents' attitude was to be supportive, and to make sure that any of their children's relationships would be built on respect. That, I think, was a very good lesson.

I also remember them buying us a copy of this book:
I haven't read it since the late '70s, so I don't know how it would play now, but it was a great resource for me during my adolescence.

I remember that book from my local library when I was but a curious little lad. Ah, those were good times.

I never had that book in the 70's ... but if the cover is any indication, we did follow its advice by having sex on the beach a lot! ;)

Hey everyone - rally around. We need to find Betty's virginity. It'll be kinda like "Finding Nemo", without the dentist's chair...

I'll look behind the sofa. ;)

Sand is not a lubricant!

Tori: trust me, there's nothing wrong with holding off for a few years. Boys are a distraction from your other intellectual/artistic pursuits, which help round you out as a person. Nothing wrong with a little flirting, but just blame the folks when a guy wants to go beyond that. Be who you are before you start worrying about who they want you to be.

Sandy Pelican !