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My daughter has a chastity ring. Not one of those in particular - something we purchased at a jewelry store that isn't a "chastity ring", but just a ring she liked.
We didn't give it to her to say "sex is a horrid thing and we don't want to talk about it, just don't do it." When we had "the talk" (both of us with her), it wasn't that sex was bad - quite the opposite (much to her dismay). It was primarily about the mechanics and emotions involved.
It was also about consequences, both emotional and physical.
What can a parent do but instill value in their child, and what values do I have to instill in my child except my own? If I did not think they were best, I would not have them as my values. We happen to think (for reasons far too numerous to share, religious reasons among them) that waiting until marriage is best.
The ring she wears isn't about some sort of taboo...it's a reminder to her of what we've talked about and to hang on to what is special.
When she is on her own, she will make her own choices. I cannot be sure that she will do what we think is best. All we can do is try to teach her what we think is best, and that ring is a small symbol of what we've talked about.
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