[Cadaverous Pallor]

As others have said, SL's advice is the best.


I don't know if it's advice free-for-all time, but I have one thing I tell everyone who is getting married.


If you do not want a larger wedding involving far-flung relatives you don't even know, or friends of your parents that you don't even know - do NOT invite them, even if your parents or grandparents say "just invite them, they won't come."

They WILL come, no matter the location or time of year. They WILL come and your party will not be your party anymore.

Invite people you want to see there - and no one else. If anyone asks or requests or wonders aloud about your choices, say "we're keeping it small." Period!