[Prudence]

You know, I was trying to think of my list of 5 ways in which people judge me and I couldn't make a list. With one exception (even I can figure out what it means when frat boys "moo" at me from a passing car) I really have no idea what people think of me. I'm pretty damn good at helping other people with their interpersonal skills and situations, but I have no idea how I fit into the universe. Thus, when I find myself in a situation similar to Crystal's -- where someone attacks some facet of my personality as subhuman and malignant -- it feels like it has come from nowhere, with no warning, and the blow is that much harder. If I'd *known* that they felt that way, or that I was perceived that way, I would have some sort of mental armor in place to blunt the attack. Thus, a lot of the stuff on my "judging" list (not taking my husband's name, going to school instead of popping out babies) doesn't even really register for me. I'm prepared for society to think I'm acting inappropriately. Just my random thought of the morning.