Hypersensitivity...

[Strangler Lewis]

Originally Posted by Moonliner

In our kids pre-school the big thing was to "build confidence". My point of view, which of course I stated loudly and often, was that building confidence is a buch of hooey. All you are doing is feeding kids fairy tails about how great they are. My point was (and still is) that the goal should be to build capability and out of capability you naturally get confidence.

Within the given limitations. Nothing is gained by setting unreasonable goals and making little kids feel like failures.

I coached my daughter's soccer team of five and six year-olds this fall, and we had one boy who just was not ready to listen or comfortable with competing physically with kids he did not know. His parents should have pulled the plug on that early on, but they paid their money and there wasn't much I could say or do. (Soccer does not have a right field.)

Not that it's relevant to this topic, but I did have one dad pull his kid on advice of counsel because his ex and his girlfriend would curse each other out and threaten to kick each other's ass while the kid was on the field.