Battle of the sexes.... I'm curious

[BarTopDancer]

Our building is 2 stories. Downstairs are all of our consultants (customer service reps) and it is mainly women. We call that area adult high school.

Doing what I do I know everyone and hang out with everyone. A month or so after I started I decided partake in salad day with some the consultants. That was the one and only time I ever ate lunch with that group. I was bombarded with questions about if I was single, married, what kind of guys I liked, who in the office I thought was cute, etc...

Upstairs there are several cliquish groups of women but they aren't nearly as bad as the ones downstairs. Like anything, I think it depends on the women and the group. I have a lot of guy friends and the most I ever hear out of them is daymn she's hot. I always offer to go get numbers for them but they always shoot me down...

[Ponine]

Now imo, consultants are a breed or species all unto their own.

Our consultants were from out of state, and all went from project to project together.
They all knew everyones business.
Someone said they only breed within their own.

I discount consultants. Esp groups of consultants in numbers under thirty, and mostly under the age of forty.

[Alex]

I have real interesting conversations with people at work, male and female, all of the time.

But generally I couldn't tell you who is married. Who is single, if anybody here is dating someone else here, or anything like that. But I couldn't say if that is because the network doesn't exit or if because I care so little people just don't offer the information.

I also don't tend to talk about myself because it is, generally, none of anybody else's business. And I don't ask because I honestly don't care and also it isn't any of my business. That's the reason when someone says "You you doing?" to me it honestly doesn't occur to me to respond in kind (I don't care how you're doing so why would I ask?).

[BarTopDancer]

Originally Posted by Ponine

Now imo, consultants are a breed or species all unto their own.

Our consultants were from out of state, and all went from project to project together.
They all knew everyones business.
Someone said they only breed within their own.

I discount consultants. Esp groups of consultants in numbers under thirty, and mostly under the age of forty.

Not that kind of consultant. The best way to explain it is that they are customer service representatives with a fancy title.

[MouseWife]

"they won't tell him who asked about him"

Oh, I see. Yes, I missed that. I thought you meant in general they don't tell.

Oh, well, if you talk with him I would tell him to get over it. If she comes forth, then he'll know. If she doesn't, he won't. Just go on as usual.

That is why no one should go through those channels. If you like someone, tell them. Or work it out in whatever way.

Am I old fashioned? Doesn't it still work this way?

And, yes, hearing people talking about dating I am quite glad to not be playing that game. I sat with my friend as she scouted out one of those on line dating sites. Too funny {and scary}. The men all put these really nice pictures but then their second/third ones looked nothing like the first ones. The women, well, meow! The things they said! The men whose stories I read were really normal sounding. The women, well, naughty naughty.

Why is that?

[Alex]

As far as the "not telling who likes him" thing goes. Am I understanding correctly that he was told that some coworker asked if he was available but then somehow a code prevents revealing the rest?

If so that is just stupid high school drama making. If it is a secret, don't tell him anything. If it isn't just tell him. And then, when you do don't forget the note that says:

Cindy asked Mary to ask me to ask you if you like Margaret. Please check one:

Yes
No
Only if I'm drunk
Only if she's drunk

[katiesue]

You forgot - Sorry I could never get that drunk.

[Alex]

That would be "No" I think.

[MouseWife]

LOL You guys are so funny.

Funny that you mention high school and notes. I was in high school and this older guy was into me. I wasn't in to him but friendly with him {my friend knew him, was his neighbor} and he took us to a few parties.

After said parties, it became apparent, even to dense me, that he was into me. I was polite and let him know I wasn't interested. The next thing I know he has dropped off flowers {garden picked} with a note telling me he would like me to be his lady, check the box 'Yes' or 'No'. {this was a guy in his early 20s}

Well, it was a funny thing to see my two friends and I rolling in fits of laughter on her den floor. {it didn't stop him, sadly, persistant bugger}

So, Alex, maybe it is a guy thing, this note writing?

Sorry to derail....

[Ponine]

Originally Posted by Alex Stroup

As far as the "not telling who likes him" thing goes. Am I understanding correctly that he was told that some coworker asked if he was available but then somehow a code prevents revealing the rest?

BINGO!!
Thats the version he's telling me anyway.
And dying to know who too.
But all I can say is, I dont know, i'm not part of their group, and they probobly wont tell you, because thats (in my experience) a standard female practice.


This is where this WHOLE curiosity of mine came from.

I said, She prob wont tell you who asked her. Some women are just like that.
Its the chick code.

And yes, i tried the... let it go theroy.