Battle of the sexes.... I'm curious

Ponine · 05-17-2007, 02:13 PM

It all started today, in a seemingly innocent real world conversation between full grown adults, well beyond the age of puberty.....

It seems that men, at least some, are not aware of the Female Code, or Female Network that can occur in the workplace, or other place where the same people meet on a repetative basis.

You know what I mean?
The fact that a given group of women will know which men are available,
Or which men are dating which women...

or The fact that if one woman asks another if Steve is available, that she is under no obligation to tell Steve who asked, even if he begs?

Does this not happen in anyone elses workplace?

I was always under the impression that there are groups of men who do similar.
Was I misled? Is it just MY friends?

Please discuss.... I am genuinely interested.

Ghoulish Delight · 05-17-2007, 02:17 PM

Women?

Ponine · 05-17-2007, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

Women?

I have no answer... other than.. are you asking if I only want women to respond?
Please no.. anyone.
Maybe its my friends that are psycho.

I know of groups of women, groups of straight men, and groups of gay men that all do this in their own ways....

Ghoulish Delight · 05-17-2007, 02:32 PM

No, I meant, "Women in the workplace, what'll they think of next?!"

There are about 22 people in my department. Exactly 2 are women, both are married. We have 3 buildings. In the building I'm in, which houses our engineering operations, there about 200 people, I'd estimate. I can probably sit here and name all of the women off the top of my head. It can't be more than 20-30.

The ratio is much different in the other two buildings (HR, sales, marketing, accounting, etc). But if I'm in those buildings I'm doing my job wrong.

So honestly, who's dating whom and who's available etc. is not a particularly hot topic of discussion among the men in this building. Perhaps there is talk amongst the women, but I'm oblivious to it if there is.

Meanwhile, just yesterday I was looking at a floor plan of our building and noticed one of the rooms labeled "Womens Lounge." It was nowhere near a restroom. I went and looked at it. It's a room that's always empty, large enough to be a conference room for maybe 5 people. It has one small desk and one crappy desk chair shoved into the back corner. I'm not sure I want a mens lounge.

Strangler Lewis · 05-17-2007, 02:33 PM

Are you sure you're not living in a dramedy?

I've been off the market for a long time, but I'm going to guess that men don't have a similar network. My sociological observation on the subject is that when I used to work in downtown SF and have lunch out a lot, every time--and I mean EVERY time--I sat next to two women eating together, their conversation was about some guy. When it was two guys, the conversation was much more varied. Generally work, sometimes sports, occasionally a girl.

Strangler Lewis · 05-17-2007, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

Meanwhile, just yesterday I was looking at a floor plan of our building and noticed one of the rooms labeled "Womens Lounge." It was nowhere near a restroom. I went and looked at it. It's a room that's always empty, large enough to be a conference room for maybe 5 people. It has one small desk and one crappy desk chair shoved into the back corner. I'm not sure I want a mens lounge.

Where my wife works, they have special rooms around the complex for nursing mothers to pump. It's much nicer than what you describe, though, and I don't believe it's euphemistically named.

AllyOops! · 05-17-2007, 02:38 PM

Aw! He said, she said, they said, we said. Isn't it just the best?

It's not just your friends, Ponine! I can honestly think of a bunch of situations where I have encountered the same thing, whether it be work, social, friends or what-have-you. Doesn't it seem like dating sometimes never moves beyond High School? It's just filled with a little less drama (not by much) and lots more sex.

I haven't noticed these discussions in a group of males, ever. Maybe they just choose not to discuss it with or around me. Mostly, my guy pals & fella coworkers are too busy talking about sex acts 24/7 to move onto anything beyond that, except maybe for discussing work. Or sports. Not one man has ever tapped me on the shoulder and tee-hee'd me about his new crush & if I could "pass it on". However, every "rule" has an exception!

I myself have never discussed who I "liked" or wanted to "date" mainly because I'm very shy and private with my life. I used to be more open, now I'm much more cautious. One of the things I love about my boyfriend was that when we met, it was strictly by meeting ourselves. I've never really had that before! We didn't work together or share the same friends. Best of all, I wasn't looking. I had decided to remain single forever and was so jaded! When I least expected it was when the magic occured.

However, you can meet your soulmate or just a fun person to date through friends or work. That happens to be the case in most situations.

I just love being a girl, and I just love men! I'm toasting to the sexes!

Ponine · 05-17-2007, 02:41 PM

Ahh.. the infamous Womens Lounge aka someone sometime years ago.... had a baby, and needed someplace to pump milk.
So some other kind soul found a closet, put in carpet and a chair, and poof!!! Nursing mothers room.
Only... that was too... telling... so it had to be a LOUNGE.

And GD... that right there might be part of the issue. I'm in payroll. Almost totally women. twenty-four women and two men.
We are joined at the hip to HR.
HR has.... five men? And almost twice as many women.

and Strangler.... its not a dramedy.. I wish it were.
Its full on Spanish Telenovella

Ghoulish Delight · 05-17-2007, 02:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Strangler Lewis

Are you sure you're not living in a dramedy?

When CP spent 2 months working at the yet-to-be-opened library, doing officy type work in an officy type environment rather than working in a functioning library in front of the public, she'd come home and tell stories that made me pretty sure she was actually commuting to Scranton, Ohio to work at Dunder Mifflin on NBC's The Office.

Ponine · 05-17-2007, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by AllyOfTheDolls

Not one man has ever tapped me on the shoulder and tee-hee'd me about his new crush & if I could "pass it on". However, every "rule" has an exception!

Yes but in this case, it was one woman going to another woman asking if THAT GUY was available or not.
Now why anyone chose to TELL the guy someone was asking.... I have zero idea.

05-17-2007, 02:13 PM	#1
Ponine Virgin Ears Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,075	Battle of the sexes.... I'm curious It all started today, in a seemingly innocent real world conversation between full grown adults, well beyond the age of puberty..... It seems that men, at least some, are not aware of the Female Code, or Female Network that can occur in the workplace, or other place where the same people meet on a repetative basis. You know what I mean? The fact that a given group of women will know which men are available, Or which men are dating which women... or The fact that if one woman asks another if Steve is available, that she is under no obligation to tell Steve who asked, even if he begs? Does this not happen in anyone elses workplace? I was always under the impression that there are groups of men who do similar. Was I misled? Is it just MY friends? Please discuss.... I am genuinely interested. __________________ There's something strange, There's something wrong. I see a change - It's like when love dies.
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05-17-2007, 02:32 PM	#4
Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	No, I meant, "Women in the workplace, what'll they think of next?!" There are about 22 people in my department. Exactly 2 are women, both are married. We have 3 buildings. In the building I'm in, which houses our engineering operations, there about 200 people, I'd estimate. I can probably sit here and name all of the women off the top of my head. It can't be more than 20-30. The ratio is much different in the other two buildings (HR, sales, marketing, accounting, etc). But if I'm in those buildings I'm doing my job wrong. So honestly, who's dating whom and who's available etc. is not a particularly hot topic of discussion among the men in this building. Perhaps there is talk amongst the women, but I'm oblivious to it if there is. Meanwhile, just yesterday I was looking at a floor plan of our building and noticed one of the rooms labeled "Womens Lounge." It was nowhere near a restroom. I went and looked at it. It's a room that's always empty, large enough to be a conference room for maybe 5 people. It has one small desk and one crappy desk chair shoved into the back corner. I'm not sure I want a mens lounge. __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ
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05-17-2007, 02:33 PM	#5
Strangler Lewis Doing The Job Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: In a state Posts: 3,956	Are you sure you're not living in a dramedy? I've been off the market for a long time, but I'm going to guess that men don't have a similar network. My sociological observation on the subject is that when I used to work in downtown SF and have lunch out a lot, every time--and I mean EVERY time--I sat next to two women eating together, their conversation was about some guy. When it was two guys, the conversation was much more varied. Generally work, sometimes sports, occasionally a girl. __________________ Live now-pay later. Diner's Club!
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05-17-2007, 02:38 PM	#7
AllyOops! It's Peanut Butter Jelly Time!!! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Introspection Intersection Posts: 1,207	Aw! He said, she said, they said, we said. Isn't it just the best? It's not just your friends, Ponine! I can honestly think of a bunch of situations where I have encountered the same thing, whether it be work, social, friends or what-have-you. Doesn't it seem like dating sometimes never moves beyond High School? It's just filled with a little less drama (not by much) and lots more sex. I haven't noticed these discussions in a group of males, ever. Maybe they just choose not to discuss it with or around me. Mostly, my guy pals & fella coworkers are too busy talking about sex acts 24/7 to move onto anything beyond that, except maybe for discussing work. Or sports. Not one man has ever tapped me on the shoulder and tee-hee'd me about his new crush & if I could "pass it on". However, every "rule" has an exception! I myself have never discussed who I "liked" or wanted to "date" mainly because I'm very shy and private with my life. I used to be more open, now I'm much more cautious. One of the things I love about my boyfriend was that when we met, it was strictly by meeting ourselves. I've never really had that before! We didn't work together or share the same friends. Best of all, I wasn't looking. I had decided to remain single forever and was so jaded! When I least expected it was when the magic occured. However, you can meet your soulmate or just a fun person to date through friends or work. That happens to be the case in most situations. I just love being a girl, and I just love men! I'm toasting to the sexes!
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05-17-2007, 02:41 PM	#8
Ponine Virgin Ears Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,075	Ahh.. the infamous Womens Lounge aka someone sometime years ago.... had a baby, and needed someplace to pump milk. So some other kind soul found a closet, put in carpet and a chair, and poof!!! Nursing mothers room. Only... that was too... telling... so it had to be a LOUNGE. And GD... that right there might be part of the issue. I'm in payroll. Almost totally women. twenty-four women and two men. We are joined at the hip to HR. HR has.... five men? And almost twice as many women. and Strangler.... its not a dramedy.. I wish it were. Its full on Spanish Telenovella __________________ There's something strange, There's something wrong. I see a change - It's like when love dies.
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