Resolutions for '09, looking forward, looking back

Disneyphile · 01-02-2009, 01:41 PM

I pretty much held to my "non-resolution" of last year by keeping around only good things (as much that was in my control, anyway).

However, with the chaos that happened, I'm actually making a few goals for this year since this has been the most significant welcomed change ever, despite my feelings of not making resolutions just because it's a new year.

Respecting my own feelings. This is already something that I've been working on, and is a big struggle for me, and I often back down, putting the feelings of others first. I will still be considerate, but I will also consider mine now too. This might upset some folks because I'm not going to be as "nice" or "giving", but respect will be mutual. My feelings should matter just as much as anyone else's. Last year taught me much about that. Some people have taken advantage of my "chameleon" adapts-to-any-situation state, and that's gonna change.
Taking better care of myself and my needs. I'd like to work on improving my physical, mental, and emotional health. This will often coincide with the first item on my list, for example, if I don't feel like going somewhere, I'm not going to go, just because someone else wants me to. It doesn't mean I don't like them - I just need to take care of something else at the time, without owing any explanation.
Continuing my pursuit of unrestrained zen and happiness on a personal level, and with my husband, and we don't need nor want anyone's approval. This will also coincide with being more enigmatic than "open book" about certain aspects and desires in our lives, unless around those of similar minds and consciences.
Learning to say "no" without feelings of guilt or obligation.
Don't over-promise stuff to others that is either impossible to finish or adds so much stress as to cause resentment and exhaustion, especially by piling more stuff onto an already over-flowing plate. This is another BIG problem of mine, which largely coincides with item #4. I think saying "no" is less disappointing than not following through on a promise due to not enough time, etc. I'd rather appear stingy than flakey. This is definitely one of my biggest faults that I don't like about myself.

Now, this doesn't mean I won't continue to give of myself to others, because it really is part of who I am, but I'm going to give myself equal treatment. And, because of this, I'll be able to lend a hand more often when true need arises.

Thus begins the year of Two Thousand Mine!

Kevy Baby · 01-02-2009, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Disneyphile

Taking better care of myself and my needs.

Does this mean that there is a new BOB in your future?

Disneyphile · 01-02-2009, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Kevy Baby

Does this mean that there is a new BOB in your future?

One of many.

Kevy Baby · 01-02-2009, 02:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Disneyphile

One of many.

You plan on acquiring many more?!? I love the optimism!

Disneyphile · 01-02-2009, 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Kevy Baby

You plan on acquiring many more?!? I love the optimism!

There are more than a few remaining styles that we don't already own, so it's not that lofty of a goal.

Although, the Sybian is still a bit out of our budget.

01-02-2009, 01:41 PM	#1
Disneyphile SQUIRREL! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: On the curbside. Posts: 5,098	I pretty much held to my "non-resolution" of last year by keeping around only good things (as much that was in my control, anyway). However, with the chaos that happened, I'm actually making a few goals for this year since this has been the most significant welcomed change ever, despite my feelings of not making resolutions just because it's a new year. Respecting my own feelings. This is already something that I've been working on, and is a big struggle for me, and I often back down, putting the feelings of others first. I will still be considerate, but I will also consider mine now too. This might upset some folks because I'm not going to be as "nice" or "giving", but respect will be mutual. My feelings should matter just as much as anyone else's. Last year taught me much about that. Some people have taken advantage of my "chameleon" adapts-to-any-situation state, and that's gonna change. Taking better care of myself and my needs. I'd like to work on improving my physical, mental, and emotional health. This will often coincide with the first item on my list, for example, if I don't feel like going somewhere, I'm not going to go, just because someone else wants me to. It doesn't mean I don't like them - I just need to take care of something else at the time, without owing any explanation. Continuing my pursuit of unrestrained zen and happiness on a personal level, and with my husband, and we don't need nor want anyone's approval. This will also coincide with being more enigmatic than "open book" about certain aspects and desires in our lives, unless around those of similar minds and consciences. Learning to say "no" without feelings of guilt or obligation. Don't over-promise stuff to others that is either impossible to finish or adds so much stress as to cause resentment and exhaustion, especially by piling more stuff onto an already over-flowing plate. This is another BIG problem of mine, which largely coincides with item #4. I think saying "no" is less disappointing than not following through on a promise due to not enough time, etc. I'd rather appear stingy than flakey. This is definitely one of my biggest faults that I don't like about myself. Now, this doesn't mean I won't continue to give of myself to others, because it really is part of who I am, but I'm going to give myself equal treatment. And, because of this, I'll be able to lend a hand more often when true need arises. Thus begins the year of Two Thousand Mine! Last edited by Disneyphile : 01-02-2009 at 01:54 PM.
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