Are you an akser or a Guesser?

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by Alex

Now, the logical question is why I don't just learn to interpret "would you like to..." to mean "do...". Well, obviously it is because "would you like to..." actually means "would you like to..." and I can't reward ambiguity.

You're not helping!

When I was full-on pregnant and later, fully engaged in first time mommyhood with daddy at home 24/7, I got much better at saying "could you please do this." I have slipped back into my old ways now and believe me, every time I say "Would you like to do this?" I inwardly cringe. Seems I have to really, really need something done that I really, really can't get to myself in order to ask for help directly.

Maybe if I talked slower I could force it out? I think that's how I got it happening before. "Would you...please...do this?" It's hard. I know you logical types think it's easy, but you are wrong. It means admitting that I can't get it done myself, and worrying that the other person thinks I'm lazy or leaning on them too much. After nearly 8 years of marriage you'd think I'd be over it.

A related sin - "We need to do this," along with an expectation that the other party overhearing will just get up and do it. Ugh. How I wish I didn't say that.