The Art of Moving On

[innerSpaceman]

Originally Posted by Gemini Cricket

I don't consider myself Catholic ... Sometimes I don't want to be gay...

Well, at least you can choose not to be Catholic! One out of two ain't bad, and it's the only one you're going to get. I, too, have my bouts of not wanting to be gay ... as, I suspect, do 90% of gay men. Nothing wrong with that feeling - - as long as you fairly quickly move on.

Since that's the title of this thread, I suppose it's harder done than said.

But moving on from most stuff is just like moving on from the feeling of not wanting to be gay. There's zero choice, and so you move on from necessity. You simpy have to come to the point where you are certain about things ... just as certain as you are that you're gay. Certain doesn't mean final. It's probably easier to come to a decision of certitude if you don't feel it has to be your final thought on the matter.

So don't make things final in your mind, just make them certain. That will assist you in moving on (and you'll always have the option to move on right back to a former position, if you later choose).

Originally Posted by Gemini Cricket

the Catholic Church infuriates me. So does the gay community.

You can still love Christmas and Cathedral Architecture and the loving goodness of many pastor folk. You don't have to accept the bigoted, hateful, neanderthal officialdom of the Catholic religion or any other. You do not need to be affiliated to appreciate the good aspects of any religion, or to appreciate the loving wonderfulness of Jesus Christ.

Fu ck the Catho lic Church! Innocent??? Since when? I can see railing against the Church being somewhat of a problem in the Boston area, but don't tell me there's a groundswell of support for leaving orphan children in the lurch.



As for gay activism ... well, I don't really see where it is that you and Ralphie are going to be receiving largess from the gay community. Were you expecting some kind of grant, perhaps?

I think most gay activism money is going towards teens. Have you noticed how relatively easy it is to be a gay teenager in America in the 21st century? It's awesome! I believe big dollars still go to AIDS causes. I guess if you're not an HIV-positive 16-year-old, you're sorta outta luck.

But if this or that gay organization is not pleasing you with their activities, don't be so alarmed. There is NO "gay community." It's too vast and varied a population ... with little in common 'cept for that man-lovin' stuff.



Just be YOU, Brad. Be the kind of christian you want to be. Be the kind of gay man you want to be. Be the kind of American you want to be, and be the kind of earthling you already are.

Conflicted as you may be at times inside your head (and who of us isn't?), you've demonstrated time and again that you're a good soul, a kind person, a smart man, a warm human ... with a progressive spirit and good intentions for all Catholics and Jews and Muslims and Athiests, all gays and all straights, all children, all dolphins, all trees and all people.



So move on in the direction of Brad, and all will surely be good.

And if you want the gay community to throw money at you .... well, you're in Boston - - - marry Ralphie already and wedding presents will follow.