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[Morrigoon]

Actually it wasn't about showing them "normal" women, so much as showing them how to attract women.

And I never said take away porn, I just said it's twisted the expectations of the socially inept, making them still more socially inept.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by Morrigoon

Actually it wasn't about showing them "normal" women, so much as showing them how to attract women.

And I never said take away porn, I just said it's twisted the expectations of the socially inept, making them still more socially inept.

Don't mind me, I'm being facetious

[PanTheMan]

Originally Posted by Morrigoon

I'm convinced that porn is twisting socially-inept guys' views of relationships (making them even more socially inept). Through porn, they develop this image in their mind of what "their" woman should be like, and what a guy should do to catch a woman's interest. And as we all know, it's WAY REMOVED from reality.

Lonely men should be watching chick flicks, not porn. (Well, except when they get REALLY lonely hehehe)

I am so glad i married the perfect person...We both like porn....lol.

And if a guy is relying on porn for reality???...Get a NEW guy.

[mistyisjafo]

Originally Posted by SwankBeer

Its TRUE!! All those stupid magazines do is pick at your confidence. They've made alot of you forget how beautiful you really are. As far as online dating goes, some people are more comfortable meeting people that way, others are more comfortable meeting face to face. Do what makes you comfortable, its the only way to have your true personality come out.

Thanks Swank!

It's true, we do forget that we are beautiful no matter what shape or size. I think that if someone was truly interested in me, then my size shouldn't matter. I also believe it's important to look you're best no matter what and to be confident.

As for online dating, it is more of a comfort zone. You can have a conversation with a perfect stranger with out ever looking them in the eye.

[alphabassettgrrl]

I have *no* idea why we buy those magazines. I guess from a sense of "somebody" knows what's cool, and we want to know, too. So you take an insecure woman, who buys the magazine, that makes her even more insecure.

Great marketing strategy, sucky life strategy. I'm cool, regardless what the magazines say. If you disagree, don't hang out with me.

I do sometimes wonder what the "30 ways to drive him wild in bed" might have, but not enough to look.

It's not that the magazine overtly tells us we're ugly- it's a subtext. They show models, and if the models are beautiful, and we don't look like that, by logic we must be ugly. It just works on a subconscious level which makes it all the more dangerous, and hard to see.

[€uroMeinke]

1) We are all more beautiful than we think we are

2) Confidence is attractive

3) Our insecurities are our worst enemies

[Not Afraid]

I buy Vogue because I love clothing, art and fashion. I fully realize that these clothes will not look the same on me no matter what I did to my current body. My body is no longer a coat hanger. I get to have tits and hips in this part of my life. And, you know what.....it's kind of fun! So.... I get ideas and inspirations from Vogue. Besides, they usually review good movies and books.

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

I don't know, Prudence. I guess it all comes down to personal experience. There are asshole men and there are asshole women. All of this is really generalization anyway. Standards of beauty have always existed. They change with the times. If you allow yourself to care about what's in fashion, or regardless of fashion, what any one person finds attracitve - and by care I mean judge yourself by the standards of others - than there's a certain amount of personal accountability, isn't there? It's probably not that men are worse than women or women are worse than men. And, ****, I've got my own standards of beauty. For example, if I were to make out with a robot, I'd rather make out with Sonny the pretty I, Robot robot than C3PO, who is dingy and foppish - not at all my type.

I can make the argument that FHM, Maxim, Vogue, Elle, etc. contribute to the creation of a sort of Frankenstein's monster of the Female Ideal, and that we're all being maniuplated by marketing, etc., although, to a certain extent, we *allow* this to happen as consumers.

I do think that media has a way of twisting things, and that many people suffer as a result of unrealistic expecations, whether those expectations are for love, for beauty, for success, etc. Ultiamtely it's people that need to tell the media (news, film, TV, radio, magazines, etc.) to go **** itself, I guess.

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I buy Vogue because I love clothing, art and fashion. I fully realize that these clothes will not look the same on me no matter what I did to my current body. My body is no longer a coat hanger. I get to have tits and hips in this part of my life. And, you know what.....it's kind of fun! So.... I get ideas and inspirations from Vogue. Besides, they usually review good movies and books.

I love the costuming of the human body, so I dig a good rag from time to time. As far as body and clothes are concerned, it's all about flattering your body type, whatever that is.

It's sad that women and men cut up their bodies in hopes of achieving some unreachable standard of beauty. They want to look like the pretty magazine people, but the pretty magazine people don't even look like that. Even the pretty people have cellulite that's airbrushed away. Vericose veins? Sure, they have them. Pimples? Yup, them too. Hellllllo, airbrush. It's totally crazy. There are photogenic women who are less attractive in person and there are people who are very attractive in person but don't photograph well. And then there are people who defy all category, and man, aren't they friggin' awesome. And, and, and.

But I won't say "Everyone is beautiful! We're all special, unique snowflakes!" That's all subject to opinion. All I really care about is planet Nebutopialoopla. On that planet, I'm the Queen of Pretty. The QUEEN!

God, I have no idea what I'm even writing. I'm exhausted.

[Bornieo: Fully Loaded]

As an ugly man I find this thread to be very macabre. Someone post some porn.