Crazy Pet Lover Seeks Same

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

The idea of online dating freaks me out. It's not meeting people online that freaks me out, obviously, but the whole dating thing kinda throws me for a loop to begin with because it reminds me of shoe shopping: mostly a hassle, usually embarrassing, often a walloping disappointment, but when you find the perfect pair....ahhhhh. The main difference for me being that I actually need shoes, therefore I must endure shoe shopping. I don’t need a boyfriend, so I spend a good part of life thinking it would be swell to have a fella but I’d rather not if it means having to date.

I’ve never much liked the idea of shopping around for a person. Friendships just sort of happen and I think I'm more comfortable with romances just sort of happening in much the same way. What's most difficult for me, I think, is window shopping dating where one dates multiple people at the same time. It's not that I'm morally opposed to the juggling so much as I find it a great emotional stress. I don't care if someone is dating four other people besides me, in theory, but I feel very odd knowing *I'm* dating four other people. If I go on a date with a guy on Monday and another date on Tuesday, I feel like I'm cheating on Monday. So I've just never done it. I've dated one guy at a time, whether it's lasted a week or a few months, etc. Dating a lot of people at once seems the equivalent of dating one person until someone better comes along, maybe because that's exactly what it is. I suppose others would say you're simply looking for the One, and you have to serial date in order to find the One.

I don't believe in the One - my life isn't The Matrix. I believe in the "Well, maybe there are a lot of people out there who are right for me, but if I'm going to waste my life with someone, I want to waste my life with you. Plus, I can't believe you actually like my cats!" The Mr. T Experience (crooners of my favorite song about Hitler), once wrote, "But I don't want to get screwed over by just anyone - you're the only one I want to get screwed over by…" I guess that fits my bill, as well.

Ah, pets. How they complicate the situation. Very hard to date a person allergic to chinchilla fur if you are the proud owner of five adorable chinchillas. Can’t really date someone with arachnophobia if it’s your lifelong dream to operate a tarantula farm. I once knew a married couple who became unexpectedly pregnant. They were huge dog lovers. Owned one dog – Hamlet - while living in a very small apartment, which was further cramped by their Bundle-O’-Cries-ALL-THE-D#!M-TIME! I recall them talking about what would happen if the baby was allergic to dogs. It happens to some pet owners that they have to find a new home for their pet. These friends of mine, they very seriously considered having to find a new home for the baby if it turned out to be allergic. No way were they giving up their furry buddy. Hamlet wasn’t an unexpected surprise that showed up in Molly’s womb one scary morning. Hamlet was handpicked – he was the Chosen!

Yes, pets complicate an already complicated situation. Until now!

http://www.datemypet.com/

Now if I can just get over my deep seeded fear of profile dating. I think I’d prefer hunting down serial killers, but who knows?!

[alphabassettgrrl]

Ha! At least you know the average guy is at least interested in dating women, and therefore has a chance of liking you. I don't really have the option of multiple dating - it's hard enough to find one gal who will consider joining our little commune! Two at the same time? Not likely.

As far as dogs and unexpected arrivals, that's why we got one of the dogs we have. The family had a baby and the wife went nuts and decided the dog was going to hurt her baby. Not likely, but we're more than happy to take him. The guy was really upset to give up his dog but apparently the wife mattered more. Fine.

[Stan4dSteph]

I agree with the online dating analysis. It creeps me out and I can't get over the idea (in my brain) that it's pathetic.

[Ghoulish Delight]

Originally Posted by Stan4dSteph

I agree with the online dating analysis. It creeps me out and I can't get over the idea (in my brain)...

As opposed to what? The idea in your butt?

[mistyisjafo]

Ahhhh the world of dating and on-line dating. It so blows to have to date.

I recently tried the world of on-line dating because it is so hard for me to meet guys on a normal basis. I'm pretty shy when I go out and more comfortable around my friends so to approach someone outside my comfort zone is very difficult. Hence I attempted the world of on-line dating. I had a few dates here and there but no one who really excited me. Worse even the guys that I have started speaking to via on-line seem to only want to have one type of conversation either via IM or Phone. Sorry dudes, but I'm not about to talk sex with someone I don't know! I've also received e-mails from some of these men with photos of their privates. EWWWWWWWW!!! Like I want to see that? So I dumped the whole on-line dating thing. I will say that it does work for some people. Especially the MC board. Seems like everyone is getting married to each other over there!

As for the SERIAL dating scene, though I hate to serial date I have learned that there is no other way to date unless you serial date. When I was young I would've never considered it. In fact, I never actually "dated". I met someone and would become their "girlfriend". Now that I'm much older and much wiser I've found that I don't necessarily need to be someone's girlfriend to date them. Dating is like shoe shopping. Or even better "dating is like a job interview with cocktails" (Carrie in Sex & the City). You have to "serial" date until you find someone who you are truly interested in and the chemistry is right. In other words, a good fit.

My new way to meet guys is to go to every social/networking event I can find. What I've found at these networking type things is that you can meet someone and talk comfortably about you're work, where you live, and some where in the conversation you talk about your single status. I've actually met one or two guys this way and I've only done it twice.

Of course neither of them panned out either!

sigh....

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

What I LOVE about this site - what's totally cracking me up - is that it's like The Brady Bunch...with pets! They should redesign their site to look like the Brady Bunch opening credits. A girl with three cats. A boy with three dogs. Wackiness ensues! C'mon!!!!! It'd be great!

"Meow meow meoooooooooooooowr!"

"Woof woof wooogrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!"

[hiss]

[snap]

"Now, now. Simmer down you guys. You don't want to get a broken nose before prom night, Fluffy Bum Wonder Kitty!" says the boy.

"And you don't want to have your ear sliced off before obedience school starts, do you Monster Monkey Fart Blossom Pup?!" says the girl.

True. Love.

[Not Afraid]

HA! I'd be the resident spinster there. 40+ woman with 5 cats. Wanna go out or stay in and listen to me talk to my cats?

Thank God for Chris.

[Prudence]

Apparently the Seattle area is notoriously difficult for singles. As confirmed by my single-guy friends, asking a girl out is considered equivalent to asking her to have sex, right there wherever you are. So guys won't do it. Everyone has to be set up through friends, or the girl has to make the first move. And then when I think back to my "active" phase, that was true. Either someone else introduced us or I asked them out. I thought it was just me being wacky, but apparently it's a regional thing. Not that I would have had a problem with guys asking me out. I'd just get annoyed waiting for them to do so (and wondering what the hell was wrong with them) and then do it myself.

[€uroMeinke]

I like that you can go to this site and ask without embarrassment to see your potential date's p*ssy

[Morrigoon]

Originally Posted by mistyisjafo

I recently tried the world of on-line dating because it is so hard for me to meet guys on a normal basis. I'm pretty shy when I go out and more comfortable around my friends so to approach someone outside my comfort zone is very difficult. Hence I attempted the world of on-line dating. I had a few dates here and there but no one who really excited me. Worse even the guys that I have started speaking to via on-line seem to only want to have one type of conversation either via IM or Phone. Sorry dudes, but I'm not about to talk sex with someone I don't know! I've also received e-mails from some of these men with photos of their privates.

I'm convinced that porn is twisting socially-inept guys' views of relationships (making them even more socially inept). Through porn, they develop this image in their mind of what "their" woman should be like, and what a guy should do to catch a woman's interest. And as we all know, it's WAY REMOVED from reality.

Lonely men should be watching chick flicks, not porn. (Well, except when they get REALLY lonely hehehe)