What are your pet peeves?

Ghoulish Delight · 10-10-2006, 10:19 AM

* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights.

* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants

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It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr.

€uroMeinke · 10-10-2006, 10:27 AM

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* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing.

The gods must be with you, I read you post after finishing this NPR feature, Failure is a Good Thing.

SzczerbiakManiac · 10-10-2006, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

a version [of musical chairs] I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants

What The Fück!?! That's not even a game. That's just Prance Around Chairs to Music. Is that even remotely fun?

unbelievable (ly pathetic)

wendybeth · 10-10-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

What The Fück!?! That's not even a game. That's just Prance Around Chairs to Music. Is that even remotely fun?

unbelievable (ly pathetic)

Well, at least none of the participants wil wind up in therapy, obsessing about how they were always the one left standing. Now, they'll all be in therapy, wondering why their parents forced them to partake in such a silly and pointless activity.

10-10-2006, 10:19 AM	#1
Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights. * Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants ) It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr. __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ Last edited by Ghoulish Delight : 10-10-2006 at 10:42 AM.
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