The meaning of life or what?

tracilicious · 01-12-2005, 12:40 AM

I'm so sorry for yours and your family's loss. It's definitely ok to grieve for someone that you didn't yet know. I'm sure that the hope and excitement involved in finding out that you had a new niece or nephew on the way was tremendous. You knew that the child was going to be awesome and that you would love (or already loved) him/her as much as you do the other two. Allow yourself to mourn that loss. You sound like a fantastic uncle.

Chris and Lisa, you two are amazing for finding your way back to each other after that kind of tragedy. I can't even imagine.

wendybeth · 01-12-2005, 12:57 AM

Borneo- when you first posted this, I wrote a long response, and then accidently hit the wrong key and it disappeared. I won't go into it, the gist was that you are mourning a very real loss, and I was very moved by your post. You are undoubtedly a wonderful brother and fantastic uncle, and a very good friend as well. I've always thought a lot of you, and even more so now. Very big hugs to a man with a very big heart.

Kim · 01-12-2005, 01:19 AM

I am so sorry for the loss your family has suffered. You need to grieve and mourn that loss. My heart just hurts for you and your family. (((Hugs)))

~MS~ · 01-12-2005, 08:26 AM

(((just cuz)))) Many of us have experienced something similar and the most important thing is to give yourself and your sister and the rest of you who were joyously anticipating the new little one the permission to grieve. It won't be the same as losing someone who has walked this earth but it's a death none the less. If you wonder 'what' you're grieving...other than the obvious loss of this precious addition to the family, you are grieving for the loss of a dream...of who/what that little person would have been had he/she been given the opportunity.

This loss is one of those 'grey areas' You'll have people who don't understand say stupid **** like OH it's "gods will" or "she can try again".....be strong for your sister and try not to want to pile drive those who are ignornant in their words. I'm saying a prayer for your family....

UvaGirl · 01-12-2005, 01:13 PM

Bornieo, I am thinking of you and your family. (((Hugs)))

01-12-2005, 12:40 AM	#1
tracilicious avatar transition Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: in-between Posts: 2,487	I'm so sorry for yours and your family's loss. It's definitely ok to grieve for someone that you didn't yet know. I'm sure that the hope and excitement involved in finding out that you had a new niece or nephew on the way was tremendous. You knew that the child was going to be awesome and that you would love (or already loved) him/her as much as you do the other two. Allow yourself to mourn that loss. You sound like a fantastic uncle. Chris and Lisa, you two are amazing for finding your way back to each other after that kind of tragedy. I can't even imagine.
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01-12-2005, 12:57 AM	#2
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	Borneo- when you first posted this, I wrote a long response, and then accidently hit the wrong key and it disappeared. I won't go into it, the gist was that you are mourning a very real loss, and I was very moved by your post. You are undoubtedly a wonderful brother and fantastic uncle, and a very good friend as well. I've always thought a lot of you, and even more so now. Very big hugs to a man with a very big heart. __________________
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01-12-2005, 01:19 AM	#3
Kim A disney nut no more Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 60	I am so sorry for the loss your family has suffered. You need to grieve and mourn that loss. My heart just hurts for you and your family. (((Hugs)))
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01-12-2005, 08:26 AM	#4
~MS~ One Happy little Missy! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 658	(((just cuz)))) Many of us have experienced something similar and the most important thing is to give yourself and your sister and the rest of you who were joyously anticipating the new little one the permission to grieve. It won't be the same as losing someone who has walked this earth but it's a death none the less. If you wonder 'what' you're grieving...other than the obvious loss of this precious addition to the family, you are grieving for the loss of a dream...of who/what that little person would have been had he/she been given the opportunity. This loss is one of those 'grey areas' You'll have people who don't understand say stupid ** like OH it's "gods will" or "she can try again".....be strong for your sister and try not to want to pile drive those who are ignornant in their words. I'm saying a prayer for your family.... __________________ "Sometimes Miracles Hide"**
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01-12-2005, 01:13 PM	#5
UvaGirl Somewhere beyond the sea Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 396	Bornieo, I am thinking of you and your family. (((Hugs))) __________________ Cause I'm a train wreck Waiting to happen Waiting for someone to come pick me up off the tracks
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