*sigh* teenagers

[BarTopDancer]

Personally, while the sex isn't going to stop, it's up to you if you will allow/encourage it in your house to begin with. Why is he allowed in his bedroom with a girl with the door closed? Teens will be teens. They still need guidance and they will sneak around do to what they will - but do you really want to encourage him?

Leave a box of condoms on his bed. That way he knows you know and he has no excuse to not use protection.

[wendybeth]

Yikes! This is a tough one. Without knowing how old he is, I am operating on the assumption that he's of legal age. As such, he has the right to engage in such activities, but he also has the obligation to abide by your house rules so long as he lives there. If he is discreet it might not be a problem, but it sounds like they are.....well....not being so discreet, and that makes others uncomfortable. If they don't realize how loud they are being, chances are they'll be mortified, but if they do and they don't care, then it's your house and your rules- break out the tape recorder!

[Nephythys]

Originally Posted by Alex

How old is he?

17

Originally Posted by zapppop

I'd go upstairs and say " Oooh Davis! Go bake yourself a cake cause you're turning up the heat! "

....but that's just me

heh- I need a laugh after all this- thanks

Originally Posted by BarTopDancer

Personally, while the sex isn't going to stop, it's up to you if you will allow/encourage it in your house to begin with. Why is he allowed in his bedroom with a girl with the door closed? Teens will be teens. They still need guidance and they will sneak around do to what they will - but do you really want to encourage him?

Leave a box of condoms on his bed. That way he knows you know and he has no excuse to not use protection.

I don't see how I am encouraging him by not going up and causing a fight. I chose to approach it quietly after she was gone. He was mortified- and said it would NOT happen again. If it does- I step up my level of intervention.

We did discuss condoms and birth control- he knows I know. He knows we heard. He knows I am unhappy and he knows one of my biggest issues is the message it sends his sister and brothers. Thankfully they were out of the house and did not know-

Originally Posted by wendybeth

Yikes! This is a tough one. Without knowing how old he is, I am operating on the assumption that he's of legal age. As such, he has the right to engage in such activities, but he also has the obligation to abide by your house rules so long as he lives there. If he is discreet it might not be a problem, but it sounds like they are.....well....not being so discreet, and that makes others uncomfortable. If they don't realize how loud they are being, chances are they'll be mortified, but if they do and they don't care, then it's your house and your rules- break out the tape recorder!

He is 17- in CO both of them are legal. Even when he turns 18 they are still age of consent (oh yeah, I checked)

When I told him flat out that we had to talk about his noisy sex he tried to play dumb- when I told him we had heard most of it he was totally embarrassed.

I guess at this point if it happens again when I or R or the other kids are in the house- I will intervene in a more abrasive manner. For now keeping peace while letting him know it was NOT ok was the best start.

I got almost no sleep- my brain is going a million miles an hour.