Jodie Foster Finally Comes Out!

Ghoulish Delight · 12-14-2007, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

It's an interesting tangent raised by Alex and €uro. But my personal response is the same to both of them, about all of it. If you're hiding it rather than just not mentioning it, you are acting from fear.

I don't talk to my coworkers about my salary. Is that a cowardly act? Is fear the ONLY motivation to ever not discuss something?

innerSpaceman · 12-14-2007, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

I don't talk to my coworkers about my salary. Is that a cowardly act? Is fear the ONLY motivation to ever not discuss something?

Yes, propriety is motivation. It can even be the motivation not to discuss your sex life.

Do you suppose that's really the motivation why most closeted people don't reveal they're gay?

I think it may be fine for those that don't want to reveal their fetishes.

But what is propriety anyway? Is it really a sincere concern for the feelings of others? Or is it fear by another name?

alphabassettgrrl · 12-14-2007, 06:00 PM

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

But what is propriety anyway? Is it really a sincere concern for the feelings of others? Or is it fear by another name?

Depends. Could go either way. I don't say anything about me when around my husband's coworkers at his request. There is fear of job loss, but also it's his request that I not muddy the waters. He prefers calm, and if they knew who I was, they would not be calm. Maybe eventually but it'd be a sore spot.

I'm fine with people giving me heat; him, not so much.

Jazzman · 12-14-2007, 06:18 PM

So here's what I'm wondering. Was she really in the closet? Has her refusal to address it until now been a defacto admission or denial? I'm sure that with all the rumors that have circulated about her, at some time someone had to have flat out asked her, "Are you gay?" If she said "No" then obviously she was lying and choosing to hang out with R Kelly in the closet. But if she refused to answer, then she's not denying it, so is she really "closeted" or is she just happily being mysterious. Because (IMO) if she's never said, "No, I am not gay," knowing full well that so many people believed that she was, then she hasn't been living in the closet, she just hasn't been running for the spotlight either. Which, by the way, is very admirable I believe.

I guess the point is, do you have to actually deny being gay when faced with others believing that you are in order to be "in the closet?" Or can you simply be someone who just, ya know, happens to swing that way but doesn't dwell on it and instead focuses on other important aspects of your life, such as say, a brilliant acting career?

12-14-2007, 06:18 PM	#4
Jazzman Sax God Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Portland's Tijuana Posts: 510	So here's what I'm wondering. Was she really in the closet? Has her refusal to address it until now been a defacto admission or denial? I'm sure that with all the rumors that have circulated about her, at some time someone had to have flat out asked her, "Are you gay?" If she said "No" then obviously she was lying and choosing to hang out with R Kelly in the closet. But if she refused to answer, then she's not denying it, so is she really "closeted" or is she just happily being mysterious. Because (IMO) if she's never said, "No, I am not gay," knowing full well that so many people believed that she was, then she hasn't been living in the closet, she just hasn't been running for the spotlight either. Which, by the way, is very admirable I believe. I guess the point is, do you have to actually deny being gay when faced with others believing that you are in order to be "in the closet?" Or can you simply be someone who just, ya know, happens to swing that way but doesn't dwell on it and instead focuses on other important aspects of your life, such as say, a brilliant acting career?
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