Body Image...

wendybeth · 02-09-2008, 01:44 AM

Well, this is a timely thread. Let's just say I've spent the last week trying to find a semi-formal outfit, and it's been a demoralizing effort. My boobs are too big for many of the styles that are out there now, and like most people I like the clothing styles that look better on my polar opposite body style. (Tall and skinny). I'm an average height and I would be so stylin' if I lived in the 1800's. (Anyone who's met me irl can attest to how pale I am, and I had curves in the 4th grade). Even when I was in my anorexic phase I had curves.

My sis Bobbi was tall, thin and streamlined- she could wear anything and it looked awesome. She complained about having smaller boobs than me, but I wanted to look just like her. Is there ever a time in our lives when we get to just like who we are and what we look like? I've yet to hit it, whatever and whenever it may be.

3894 · 02-09-2008, 06:17 AM

Words of wisdom from The Lovely Mrs. tod at MousePad:

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"Stand up straight and carry yourself with pride. Open up your mind, learn new things. Help those in need, be as generous as you can. Treat people with respect and kindness. Smile often, laugh frequently, reach out and touch your fellow man. Think more about those you love than you think about yourself. Worry less about the firmness of your backside and more about the softness of your countenance.You'll be better than 'remotely attractive.' You'll be absolutely beautiful."

Drince88 · 02-09-2008, 08:28 AM

There are times I go through huge body image issues - and other times, I really 'accept' where I am and can look in the mirror (clothed) and say "Dang, I look hot". I doubt I'll ever say that looking in the mirror naked, but that's ok - I've given up on men and have no attraction to women, so it's likely nobody will ever see me naked 'on purpose'. Heck, my stomach has not seen light of day since puberty (literally) - and I'm ok with that - I've learned what sort of one-piece swimsuits I can buy that accentuate my positive.

I was generally happier when I was at my goal weight - and I've been trying (but not doing so much) to get back there. And I get frustrated as heck when I have to go pants shopping. I've just about given up shopping for dresses - too many different sizes going on.

And unlike Prudence, I don't think I'll ever like my feet - 10W, even on a 5'10" body, is not a pretty size!

Jenny, you have every right to join in on these sorts of conversations. Yes, some women will think/say "Oh, to have your issues" But dang it, just because they'd like to have your issues - doesn't mean they aren't valid issues to have (in the demented world that is just about every woman's issues with body image)

I'd really like to see a world where everyone DOES hold their head high and accept their body as it is and don't have body image issues (in public and in the privacy of their own minds) - but I'd also like to see world peace, and an end to poverty and hunger.

02-09-2008, 01:44 AM	#1
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	Well, this is a timely thread. Let's just say I've spent the last week trying to find a semi-formal outfit, and it's been a demoralizing effort. My boobs are too big for many of the styles that are out there now, and like most people I like the clothing styles that look better on my polar opposite body style. (Tall and skinny). I'm an average height and I would be so stylin' if I lived in the 1800's. (Anyone who's met me irl can attest to how pale I am, and I had curves in the 4th grade). Even when I was in my anorexic phase I had curves. My sis Bobbi was tall, thin and streamlined- she could wear anything and it looked awesome. She complained about having smaller boobs than me, but I wanted to look just like her. Is there ever a time in our lives when we get to just like who we are and what we look like? I've yet to hit it, whatever and whenever it may be. __________________
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02-09-2008, 08:28 AM	#3
Drince88 Senior Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 481	There are times I go through huge body image issues - and other times, I really 'accept' where I am and can look in the mirror (clothed) and say "Dang, I look hot". I doubt I'll ever say that looking in the mirror naked, but that's ok - I've given up on men and have no attraction to women, so it's likely nobody will ever see me naked 'on purpose'. Heck, my stomach has not seen light of day since puberty (literally) - and I'm ok with that - I've learned what sort of one-piece swimsuits I can buy that accentuate my positive. I was generally happier when I was at my goal weight - and I've been trying (but not doing so much) to get back there. And I get frustrated as heck when I have to go pants shopping. I've just about given up shopping for dresses - too many different sizes going on. And unlike Prudence, I don't think I'll ever like my feet - 10W, even on a 5'10" body, is not a pretty size! Jenny, you have every right to join in on these sorts of conversations. Yes, some women will think/say "Oh, to have your issues" But dang it, just because they'd like to have your issues - doesn't mean they aren't valid issues to have (in the demented world that is just about every woman's issues with body image) I'd really like to see a world where everyone DOES hold their head high and accept their body as it is and don't have body image issues (in public and in the privacy of their own minds) - but I'd also like to see world peace, and an end to poverty and hunger.
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