Happy what?

[Nephythys]

ok- changing the direction a bit.....

Worst Valentines Memory- I wanted to do Valentines up and sweet for my ex husband. Flowers, candlelight dinner, card, candy, and me in slinky lingerie.

His response?

"What did you get for ME? You got the lingerie- what about ME?"

Fvcker.

Best Valentines memory- My dad- knowing for years I had no Valentine- always got me something pretty and special- with a small box of candy and a card. Dad's make good Valentines when you are alone.

I AM celebrating the day- I bought the kids candy and I WILL exchange gifts and spend time with Jupiter today after work- I just find the huge aisles of pink and red and fluff and the barrage of consumerism to be really artificial. I found the OP "wish" to be amusing and snarky in a tounge and cheek way- no wish to rain on people's celebration- just an expression of my own cynical reaction to this "holiday".

[MouseWife]

Originally Posted by Nephythys

Best Valentines memory- My dad- knowing for years I had no Valentine- always got me something pretty and special- with a small box of candy and a card. Dad's make good Valentines when you are alone.

Dads are the best.

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Originally Posted by Nephythys

Worst Valentines Memory...

Dude, what's with all the dwelling on the negative?

I have a pretty specific worst memory, but it took place in second grade (and some of you already know it via my screenplay.) But I'm not going to dwell on it today!

Best memories? Opening cards with my parents on Valentine's morning every year while I was at home, and often getting another cute card from them in my lunch bag. And Tom taking me to see Lady and the Tramp at El Cap, followed by eating spaghetti together.

[Nephythys]

Originally Posted by LSPoorEeyorick

Dude, what's with all the dwelling on the negative?

I have a pretty specific worst memory, but it took place in second grade (and some of you already know it via my screenplay.) But I'm not going to dwell on it today!

Best memories? Opening cards with my parents on Valentine's morning every year while I was at home, and often getting another cute card from them in my lunch bag. And Tom taking me to see Lady and the Tramp at El Cap, followed by eating spaghetti together.

Because it's my thread and I wanted to talk about past Valentines memories-

Gives some perspective on how I view things now.

I am hardly "dwelling" on it by mentioning it once.

[SacTown Chronic]

But do you still have the lingerie?

[Nephythys]

Originally Posted by SacTown Chronic

But do you still have the lingerie?

Maybe- but if I discuss how I look in it now I will just drag the thread to new lows


I wonder what color it is under the dust?

[LSPoorEeyorick]

Originally Posted by Nephythys

I am hardly "dwelling" on it by mentioning it once.

I didn't mean just your bringing up of "worst memory," I was including everything else you were saying about the day. I agree that I have no interest in the Hallmark-brand Valentine's Day (TM), and I know that there are some people who use the day as an opportunity to milk their partner for another thoughtless gift. And yep, that's lame.

But on the other hand, sometimes those who have trouble expressing their feelings can get a lot out of this day. Not everybody can write or express their love, and maybe a Hallmark card helps them, and maybe this day reminds them to do it.

And then there's my dad, who took today as an opportunity to express his love, in his very little time not spent nursing his sick wife who is in a lot of pain, by writing a poem to tell her how much he loves her.

So, no. No big paper bag full of mean Valentines depicting a series of fat animals that arrived in my papier-mache mailbox in second grade, no memories of bad times or abusive partners, no sending-myself-flowers-because-I'm-lonely memories of my Valentines past can change that in the end, I think this holiday can be good, if you make of it what you want to. Which you do, and I do, and a lot of other people do. So don't malign the day, malign the people who misuse it.