The random political thoughts thread (Part Deux) - Page 412

katiesue · 12-30-2008, 07:24 PM

Some people do plan it - my Mom has had 4 plots for years. We've filled two so far. She also had her funeral pre-paid, casket picked out, which hyms to use, a request for a veiwing (which is gross), down to having her glasses on for the viewing but not for the burial.

It is weird but some people do it.

Anyone need two cemetary plots? I can make you a deal. They do unfortunately now overlook the excercise yard for the Jail next door. And you have to be next to my Mother for eternity.

alphabassettgrrl · 12-30-2008, 07:32 PM

I'm not even sure what state I'll be in when I die. I'm not that settled. I've thought about my future funeral, and husband and I agree that a wake is better than a funeral, and that we'd probably like to be cremated but that's about as far as we've gotten.

I don't mind a viewing. One last chance to say good bye. I would have liked to go to my grandmother's but it wasn't possible. For my dad we didn't have anything; he was cremated. My mom got to see him and my brothers were offered a chance at the coroner's office, but that was about it. I would definitely have wanted that one last look but I didn't get to.

bewitched · 12-30-2008, 08:33 PM

I've known several people who, like katiesue's mom, have planned every detail.

My plans are simple. No viewing, cremation (at a crematorium that doesn't embalm first-- although legally funeral homes cannot require embalming), a rocking wake and then my ashes spread near the Ocean (although I haven't settled on a final spot yet).

I only have plans because I absolutely do not want my body buried or embalmed nor do I want to be viewed (personally, I think it's a morbid ritual even though I know it brings solace to some). So I figured someone ought to know (it's also in my will but I would hate to be embalmed and buried, have the will read and...oops!)

alphabassettgrrl · 12-30-2008, 08:44 PM

You're absolutely right that people ought to know what you want done.

Alex · 12-30-2008, 09:04 PM

I know some people plan everything, what I find weird is actually installing the monument long before death.

As for me, I've told Lani that if she want to throw my body in the street to be eaten by vultures, that is fine with me. I won't be there so whatever she wants to do after I die is fine by me. If she goes first and I need to leave instructions then I'd donate anything that could be donated; of particular interest would be that outdoor decomposition test site (I forget which university hosts it).

katiesue · 12-30-2008, 09:29 PM

Dan did it on One Tree Hill. Sadly I watch horrible teen dramas.

I have known people who do put the monument in ahead of time, they just leave the death date blank. We spent every Memorial Day putting flowers on graves and it's not all that uncommon.

alphabassettgrrl · 12-30-2008, 09:40 PM

Alex, it's called The Body Farm. I think it's somewhere in one of the Carolinas.

Alex · 12-30-2008, 11:01 PM

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Originally Posted by katiesue

I have known people who do put the monument in ahead of time, they just leave the death date blank. We spent every Memorial Day putting flowers on graves and it's not all that uncommon.

Interesting. I'd seen it with family plots where some were already in the ground and it was known they'd eventually be joined.

Oh well, still an amusing one with the grandiosity of the memorial and the trivialness of some accomplishments.

katiesue · 12-30-2008, 11:11 PM

Well if you do it yourself ahead of time you'll be remembered exactly as you wanted to be, right?

Drince88 · 12-31-2008, 05:32 AM

I don't mind if I'm cremated or not, but I DON'T want to be scattered, and I do NOT want to be buried here in New Orleans. Mostly because I do NOT want to 'be with anyone' in death, and the way the tombs, etc are dealt with around here, I would be. I choose to live my life as a single person, I'd prefer my body to remain that way 'after'!

12-30-2008, 07:24 PM	#4111
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	Some people do plan it - my Mom has had 4 plots for years. We've filled two so far. She also had her funeral pre-paid, casket picked out, which hyms to use, a request for a veiwing (which is gross), down to having her glasses on for the viewing but not for the burial. It is weird but some people do it. Anyone need two cemetary plots? I can make you a deal. They do unfortunately now overlook the excercise yard for the Jail next door. And you have to be next to my Mother for eternity. __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	I'm not even sure what state I'll be in when I die. I'm not that settled. I've thought about my future funeral, and husband and I agree that a wake is better than a funeral, and that we'd probably like to be cremated but that's about as far as we've gotten. I don't mind a viewing. One last chance to say good bye. I would have liked to go to my grandmother's but it wasn't possible. For my dad we didn't have anything; he was cremated. My mom got to see him and my brothers were offered a chance at the coroner's office, but that was about it. I would definitely have wanted that one last look but I didn't get to. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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12-30-2008, 08:33 PM	#4113
bewitched 101% Yummy! Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: I know Kung Fu. Posts: 1,413	I've known several people who, like katiesue's mom, have planned every detail. My plans are simple. No viewing, cremation (at a crematorium that doesn't embalm first-- although legally funeral homes cannot require embalming), a rocking wake and then my ashes spread near the Ocean (although I haven't settled on a final spot yet). I only have plans because I absolutely do not want my body buried or embalmed nor do I want to be viewed (personally, I think it's a morbid ritual even though I know it brings solace to some). So I figured someone ought to know (it's also in my will but I would hate to be embalmed and buried, have the will read and...oops!) __________________ ~Whitney Wondering about the future of Ellington Woodard's punk@ss sh!t. Last edited by bewitched : 12-30-2008 at 08:40 PM.
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alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	You're absolutely right that people ought to know what you want done. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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12-30-2008, 09:04 PM	#4115
Alex . Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 13,354	I know some people plan everything, what I find weird is actually installing the monument long before death. As for me, I've told Lani that if she want to throw my body in the street to be eaten by vultures, that is fine with me. I won't be there so whatever she wants to do after I die is fine by me. If she goes first and I need to leave instructions then I'd donate anything that could be donated; of particular interest would be that outdoor decomposition test site (I forget which university hosts it).
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12-30-2008, 09:29 PM	#4116
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	Dan did it on One Tree Hill. Sadly I watch horrible teen dramas. I have known people who do put the monument in ahead of time, they just leave the death date blank. We spent every Memorial Day putting flowers on graves and it's not all that uncommon. __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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12-30-2008, 09:40 PM	#4117
alphabassettgrrl Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,978	Alex, it's called The Body Farm. I think it's somewhere in one of the Carolinas. __________________ Why cycling? Anything [sport] that had to do with a ball, I wasn't very good at. -Lance Armstrong
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12-30-2008, 11:11 PM	#4119
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	Well if you do it yourself ahead of time you'll be remembered exactly as you wanted to be, right? __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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12-31-2008, 05:32 AM	#4120
Drince88 Senior Member Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 481	I don't mind if I'm cremated or not, but I DON'T want to be scattered, and I do NOT want to be buried here in New Orleans. Mostly because I do NOT want to 'be with anyone' in death, and the way the tombs, etc are dealt with around here, I would be. I choose to live my life as a single person, I'd prefer my body to remain that way 'after'!
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