Kid Question, Opinions Requested

[Moonliner]

Originally Posted by Mousey Girl

I have mentioned my Monkeys in the past. One of them, Blake, had his 9th B-day party yesterday. His older brother Trent was here Saturday, along with some of the other kids. They were all talking about the party, and receiving invitations. Nickolas said that he never got an invite. Trent told him he was invited, even if he didn't get anything on paper. Nickolas went over there yesterday around 1, the party was to start at 2. At 1:20 he was home, very upset. Blake had told him he was NOT invited and that he had to leave.

I am trying to stay out of this. I have intervened in the past when Blake was refusing to talk to Nickolas. No one seems to know why he told Nick he wasn't invited.

I am really fighting the urge to call his mom. In my opinion it is her poor parenting skills that have let up to this. At the same time I know nothing would be resolved, and Nick still missed the party, so I will remain silent.

Should I just let the boys work it out on their own? If Blake comes over do I tell him he can't come in? Do I let Nick tell him he can't come in? I just don't know what to do...

Sorry, I'm having trouble following this. Blake and Trent seem to be yours, but who is Nickolas? Yours also? Who's party was this, if it was Trent's then that would make you the mom (doubtful...). If not, then what was Trent doing essentially inviting Nickolas to some other kids party? Also it would help to know the ages of Nick and the party boy. Please clarify so I can comment. Thanks.

[Tref]

Originally Posted by Moonliner

Please clarify so I can comment. Thanks.

OK, I think I understand. MG owns two monkeys. And they were invited to the party of a boy named Nickolas. Now, Nickolas (or, Olas, for short) sent out invitations to everybody but himself. Apparently, Olas, didn't have enough invitations and besides, he didn't think he could attend due to a prior engagement, which, as it turns out, was his own birthday party. So, Olas is a no show, but the party goes on as scheduled & everybody has a good time. Well, almost. Here is where the story gets tricky.

The party would have been a major success, with a large buffet, kiddie pool, games and prizes and cake, except that none of the above items were actually included. When the children arrived they were escorted to a small room with folding chairs and made to watch a video on purchasing prime California real estate. Afterward, they were served a cold spaghetti dinner.

In retrospect, it can not be said everybody had a good time; though after the nine hour, high pressure, birthday event ended, you could say the children left fully understanding the benefits of owning a piece of California Pines. Or, what I like to call -- home!

MG followed her story with a question, but I do not recall what it was.

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[SusieP.]

Originally Posted by Tref

The party would have been a major success, with a large buffet, kiddie pool, games and prizes and cake, except that none of the above items were actually included. When the children arrived they were escorted to a small room with folding chairs and made to watch a video on purchasing prime California real estate. Afterward, they were served a cold spaghetti dinner.

Lemony Snicket, is that you????

As a teacher-type person and a mom, I think you have to let them deal with it for now. As long as nobody is being bodily harmed, they will figure it out, and will probably be best buddies again by the weekend.

This age is really tricky. The school where I worked was 4th-6th grade. This is when they start learning how to manipulate power over others to give themselves more status, and they start getting outright mean- the boys, but especially the girls. Remind your son that being nice is more important than being cool, hard as that is to understand, and that those nice friends are the ones he'll want to keep. You don't have to like everyone, but you do have to be nice to people. (Especially the mean ones, 'cause they HATE that! )