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Chernabog · 07-12-2009, 08:36 PM

Eeeesh I am so sorry. Drug addicts will find a way to destroy their entire family. In the name of guilt or duty or love the family will instead enable the person to keep going on the same path. Drug addicts will exploit those qualities until you are sucked down with them. There's a good person inside of him that the drugs have suppressed. This is exactly the type of relationship I had with my parents about 5-6 years ago. Things are 1000% better now.

All you can do really is a) an intervention (if you think he is receptive, in which you suggest a rehab if he wants to go) or b) tell him that if he wants help, you'll be the first one to help him. He needs to be beat down enough to want help. It's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't force him to be saved.

As far as yourself -- one good group to look into if you haven't already is Al-Anon. They're a 12-step group that helps family and friends of addicts/alcoholics to cope with their loved one, and to not let their lives be controlled by them.

07-12-2009, 08:36 PM	#1
Chernabog Biophage Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: The Moon Posts: 2,679	Eeeesh I am so sorry. Drug addicts will find a way to destroy their entire family. In the name of guilt or duty or love the family will instead enable the person to keep going on the same path. Drug addicts will exploit those qualities until you are sucked down with them. There's a good person inside of him that the drugs have suppressed. This is exactly the type of relationship I had with my parents about 5-6 years ago. Things are 1000% better now. All you can do really is a) an intervention (if you think he is receptive, in which you suggest a rehab if he wants to go) or b) tell him that if he wants help, you'll be the first one to help him. He needs to be beat down enough to want help. It's hard to come to terms with the fact that you can't force him to be saved. As far as yourself -- one good group to look into if you haven't already is Al-Anon. They're a 12-step group that helps family and friends of addicts/alcoholics to cope with their loved one, and to not let their lives be controlled by them. __________________ And they say back then our universe Was a coal black egg Until the god inside Burst out and from its shattered shell He made what became the world we know ~ Bjork (Cosmogony)
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