Isn't everything the worst?

[Betty]

Originally Posted by Cadaverous Pallor

I think the logic goes, "He says he will help with anything I need to care for the baby, but the baby essentially needs me,

Not necessarily true though. GD could come home and take the baby off your hands for 1/2 hour for you to do whatever - including doing nothing at all. And if not right away, maybe 1/2 hour after he got home and rested a bit.

He might also want to focus on doing things for you. Rubbing your feet would be a good example. Easy to do - very rewarding and doesn't require you to do a thing.

When I was a stay at home Mom, I had a hard time getting my husband to understand that just because I was home all day, didn't meant I wasn't working just as hard as he did, and didn't need a break at the end of the day just as bad as he did.

I also learned that a playpen to corral the kid in one spot while I cleaned up, showered, whatever, was just fine.