Crush on the wrong person? - Page 2

Boingonut · 10-14-2005, 10:19 PM

Oh, feel free to PM me as well with any advice, thanks!

Bornieo: Fully Loaded · 10-14-2005, 10:40 PM

Sorry to hear that B-nut. I don't think there's any true answer to your "problem." I think sitting about letting your "Imagingation" get the best of you is fool's gold. You've done what you think you needed to do, haven't you? Realistically, what could / should happen? Sometimes, a day, a week or two of letting things lye might be what the doctor ordered. I say, casual. If she calls you, she does. If not, just chit-chat when you see her next. Maybe make a casual comment.

Just my opinion.

Boingonut · 10-14-2005, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Bornieo: Fully Loaded

I think sitting about letting your "Imagingation" get the best of you is fool's gold.

If you can't tell I am really really really good at letting my imagination get the better of me

. Yeah I am going to try to keep things casual no matter what since I really do enjoy her friendship at school and don't want to mess that up.

Not Afraid · 10-14-2005, 11:02 PM

It sounds like she may have let her own imagination go and it went int the wrong direction without getting to know you first or spening some time together. Well, if it is meant to be, it will get there eventually. Meanwhile, keep living the good life on your own until someone with the right imagination comes along. It will happen.

Bornieo: Fully Loaded · 10-14-2005, 11:05 PM

Sorry, big fingers...

wendybeth · 10-14-2005, 11:10 PM

It sounds like she knows that you are interested, but that could just be your hyper-awareness of it that makes me think so.

Either way, you value her friendship, so just keep cool and casual. If she calls, great, if not, then go to the concert, have a fantastic time, and then when you're talking about it afterwards be sure to just casually mention to her that you had an extra ticket and you didn't want it to go to waste, so you tried to give it to her but....

Eric and I met in school, and we were friends first. I had an idea that he might like me, but I wasn't ready for anything so I just kept things on a friends level. Later on, it occured to me that everything I liked in a guy was right there, so I'm glad he stayed with it.

mistyisjafo · 10-16-2005, 06:02 PM

Sorry to hear that Boingonut. I wouldn't worry too much tho. Just think that if she wants to hang out with you she'd make the effort. If not then there's the answer. Don't be sad, there will be others!

Boingonut · 10-16-2005, 07:37 PM

At this point I am going to gauge things on how she acts when I see her next. If everything is cool then I might still try to ask her to the show, I wanted to do it in person on Thursday in person anyway but things got messed up. Until then I will give her the benefit of the doubt in regards to calling me back, she could be out of town, might not have checked her messages or any other number of things. I really hate talking on the phone anyway, I guess I got dumped one to many times in high school over the phone so now I just kind of hate the things. I would much rather talk to people in person.

I am really not feeling to bumed right now, I have been through much worse. That sinking feeling is never plesent but it is something I am sure all of us have felt and got used to even. If anything this whole thing has made me want to get out there even more and meet and date new people. So I guess you could say that I am trying to look at the good things that can happen from this and not the bad.

I know one thing, I had to try and if I didn't I would feel much worse right now. And I may still try, but I think I am going to try to put my feelings for this young lady on the back burner for now. I don't think I have burned any bridges with her so there is still hope and ther is still our friendship.

Thanks to everyone who responded to this tread, I debated with myself about making this whole thing public. I am glad I did though because I think I got some really good advice from the experts here!

Thanks everyone!

wendybeth · 10-16-2005, 07:41 PM

What a great attitude, Boingonut!

If it will be, it will be, and if it won't no harm in trying. It's not like you made a pass at her, so it shouldn't be awkward- you simply wanted to ask her to a concert. Even if she isn't romantically interested, she should be flattered.

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Bornieo: Fully Loaded Lego Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Disneyland, USA Posts: 3,704	Sorry to hear that B-nut. I don't think there's any true answer to your "problem." I think sitting about letting your "Imagingation" get the best of you is fool's gold. You've done what you think you needed to do, haven't you? Realistically, what could / should happen? Sometimes, a day, a week or two of letting things lye might be what the doctor ordered. I say, casual. If she calls you, she does. If not, just chit-chat when you see her next. Maybe make a casual comment. Just my opinion.
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10-14-2005, 11:02 PM	#14
Not Afraid HI! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 17,108	It sounds like she may have let her own imagination go and it went int the wrong direction without getting to know you first or spening some time together. Well, if it is meant to be, it will get there eventually. Meanwhile, keep living the good life on your own until someone with the right imagination comes along. It will happen.
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Bornieo: Fully Loaded Lego Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Disneyland, USA Posts: 3,704	Sorry, big fingers...
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wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	It sounds like she knows that you are interested, but that could just be your hyper-awareness of it that makes me think so. Either way, you value her friendship, so just keep cool and casual. If she calls, great, if not, then go to the concert, have a fantastic time, and then when you're talking about it afterwards be sure to just casually mention to her that you had an extra ticket and you didn't want it to go to waste, so you tried to give it to her but.... Eric and I met in school, and we were friends first. I had an idea that he might like me, but I wasn't ready for anything so I just kept things on a friends level. Later on, it occured to me that everything I liked in a guy was right there, so I'm glad he stayed with it. __________________
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mistyisjafo A JAFO Production Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Orange, CA Posts: 567	Sorry to hear that Boingonut. I wouldn't worry too much tho. Just think that if she wants to hang out with you she'd make the effort. If not then there's the answer. Don't be sad, there will be others! __________________
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10-16-2005, 07:37 PM	#18
Boingonut Anyone seen my Bike? Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Valencia, CA Posts: 100	At this point I am going to gauge things on how she acts when I see her next. If everything is cool then I might still try to ask her to the show, I wanted to do it in person on Thursday in person anyway but things got messed up. Until then I will give her the benefit of the doubt in regards to calling me back, she could be out of town, might not have checked her messages or any other number of things. I really hate talking on the phone anyway, I guess I got dumped one to many times in high school over the phone so now I just kind of hate the things. I would much rather talk to people in person. I am really not feeling to bumed right now, I have been through much worse. That sinking feeling is never plesent but it is something I am sure all of us have felt and got used to even. If anything this whole thing has made me want to get out there even more and meet and date new people. So I guess you could say that I am trying to look at the good things that can happen from this and not the bad. I know one thing, I had to try and if I didn't I would feel much worse right now. And I may still try, but I think I am going to try to put my feelings for this young lady on the back burner for now. I don't think I have burned any bridges with her so there is still hope and ther is still our friendship. Thanks to everyone who responded to this tread, I debated with myself about making this whole thing public. I am glad I did though because I think I got some really good advice from the experts here! Thanks everyone!
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10-16-2005, 07:41 PM	#19
wendybeth Nevermind Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 7,847	What a great attitude, Boingonut! If it will be, it will be, and if it won't no harm in trying. It's not like you made a pass at her, so it shouldn't be awkward- you simply wanted to ask her to a concert. Even if she isn't romantically interested, she should be flattered. __________________
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